Is my hair getting grey because time is passing or is time passing because my hair is turning grey.
What is time anyway? How would you measure time if nothing was moving. Sun not going up and down, your heart not beating, water not flowing, the clock not ticking or changing digits.
There wouldn’t be any chance that you can measure how time passed since you thought about the last time. Now picture that whole scenery slightly bigger.
Something like: Nothing moves! Ever! Like in space where there is nothing. A place even without light.
How do you measure time there.
This idea shows that the concept of time only works if things are moving and may it be energy. It was there, now it’s here and soon it will be somewhere else. And something is always moving. If you take a picture and capture that moment nothing is moving… well and no time is passing because you captured a moment.
But, isnt’t life always now and isn’t now always the moment? Does that mean now is timeless?
I love luxury.
That’s why I chose to live without it most of the time. Sounds strange, but makes sense when you think about it. What is luxury after all. Per definition it is something that you don’t have day in and day out.
Something unsusual, something that feels special when you have it.
The thing about us humans is, that we can get used to almost everything. As our frontal cortex (the part of our brain that is responsible for consciousness) is only capable of doin so many things it outsources.
Over 99,99% of al the information that our bodies deal with is handled on an automated basis.
Therefor we can teach our body almost anything to deal with on an automated basis. We get used to it.
That is the point about luxury. It only feels luxurious/special as long as we don’t have it. As soon as we do, we get used to it and take it for granted. On our search for luxury we develop the next craving which is even harder to achieve than the last. Life becomes more difficult and we have more to lose than before.
It becomes harder to enjoy what we have (it became mandatory) and so much easier to worry (more to lose).
By giving up luxury and bringing yourself more often in situation where you need to depend on the basics can make you a more appreciative person and enjoy life more.
Several reasons let to this podcast episode about the most basic and precious thing in our life: health.
Multiple reasons to think about life and how easy it might be lost. All other aspects and goals in life become secondary, compared to health.
You can’t achieve anything once you are gone and one day you will.
How will you use your time?
I like to see myself as a fearless adventurous guy. One, who leaves the known behind in search for the life I love.
I dream about all these different places I will visit and things I will do, but…
…sometimes I become fearful when I have a closer look at my plans. I back up because I fear it might go wrong once I am starting.
…and sometimes I become fearful once I get there. I am overwhelmed by the new situation and don’t know how to handle it. I back up to a known surrounding where I don’t feel as helpless.
Somehow this happens to me in all different situations. May the fear be about putting together a new adventure seminar, visiting a new interesting place, changing the place where I mainly live or sometimes just about publishing a new article, podcast or video.
I think it is important to write about these fears because it is so much easier to talk and write about all the positive and shiny things in life. We live in a world, where everybody else’s life, according to their social media output seems to be so nice, just not our own.
BUT: that is not life, it is just one aspect of it. Life is always up and down. The downs are necessary because they offer us learning possibilities and prepare us for the next up. It’s how we manage the downs and which conclusion we draw from them that will change our destiny.
Maybe you have some fears as well and it may be just normal that they pop up.
Fear is a feeling that wants to tell you something. Maybe the fear wants to alert you because of something dangerous, maybe it just confuses the unknown with something dangerous. In the end it will remain your own choice whether you take that fear serious and whether you will let that fear dictate your life.
I intent to show that I have been a fearful person all of my life and maybe everybody is. Fear has gotten in my way to live up to my dreams for the longest part of my life. Each time though, that I managed to overcome that fear I had the chance for tremendous personal growth.
After all, there are only three things that you are in control:
One affects the other and everything else happens outside your body, outside yourself and you can’t control it.
If you want to overcome fear it helps to disengage. You are not your feelings and it is mainly a thought that keeps popping up. When fear grows it might turn into words that you keep telling yourself and these word will turn into actions sooner or later. Always remember this:
Wherever you are now. You didn’t wake up there by accident. It’s the choices you made.
How you feel about it, is based on the story you tell yourself.
So if you don’t like where you are right now, take different choices and change the story you tell yourself!
If you need help on that, you can leave me a message or you check out the simple stress reducing techniques that you can find at the member section.
Before I let you go today:
The life I am living today is so much different than the life I was living 10 years ago. Back then I may have had, in silent moment, similar dreams but at the same time, no idea how to ever reach them.
If I compare myself to the biggest dream I have, I am still not halfway there. If I compare myself to the little me back then, I moved mountains and crossed oceans. I am further than I ever thought.
It is always about the story you tell.
There is one person only that you should compare yourself to. That person is yourself, yesterday. Life is not about reaching a goal. It is solely about the way to get there.
As I had new ideas in the past, I kept adding them to my portfolio.
While I had a rule with my material possessions: For each item that I added to my life, I needed to let go of two, I already owned.
At the same time I kept adding ideas to my professional life.
When I started to reconciliate websites and podcasts by the end of last year, I realized that I still had created way too many double structures over the last years.
More than that, had I reached a point where they were not motivating anymore but held me back. They started to cause confusion because I had no clear structure anymore. When I sad down to write an article I couldn’t focus as easy as I wished I could. That’s the thing about clutter, be it material or mental: It starts holding you back.
The moment something is not adding value to your life it might be time to let go.
So I did.
I asked myself what it is that I am doing, what is the main message, that I want to spread, what do all my projects have in common…
Quickly it became very clear with that changed approach, that everything I do can be summed up by the concept of the simplicity of happiness. (Maybe you could have guessed that, right?)
So I ditched everything else and combined it under the very same logo/brand/website:
Welcome to the simplicity-of-happiness.com!
For the longest time in my professional career I tried to be professional, not too sloppy, not too emotional, not too esoteric, not too spiritual.
I started as a Headhunter and realized I don‘t want to fill random positions for random people in random industries. I wanted to work for human beings and lead by living an extraordinary life myself.
I became a career consultant for a prestigious business school and helped people make smarter career choices and therefor more money. I started to make unconventional life decision and started writing about it at ‚simplicity of happiness’ and realized I didn’t want to focus on career decisions solely instead I wanted to help people live a better life and live an extraordinary life myself.
I became the Happylife.Coach. I created an own brand, I designed everything to look professional and I created extraordinary ADVENTURE seminars that evolved out of my extraordinary travels that I was writing and podcasting about at ‚simplicity of happiness‘. All of a sudden I was living an extraordinary life, at least from my point of view 10 years prior.
I still feel absolutely ordinary and I realize more and more that it the simplicity that makes lies beneath true happiness! All the professional thriving for a career, success & wealth is superficial.
Life is so much larger.
What matters most in life, lies beneath the surface.
I won‘t be professional anymore. I‘ll be human, I‘ll be spiritual, I‘ll be myself and I will keep to help you find the one you want to be.
Therefor I am dropping all other labels and you‘ll find everything about me at simplicity of happiness. That‘s it. Stay tuned for more 😉
I have been on the road again and among others I visited the Düsseldorf boatshow called boot.
I had no specific idea about the boatshow before I went there, which left me completely open minded.Nevertheless I was surprised on how much plastic crap is available there. Not much about repair or DIY. Not really much about sailing either. Only very few smaller sailing boats at all and a lot of huge plastic hull with not so nice interior.
All of this left me thinking about stuff you need. Minimalism and simplicity is not only about getting rid of things you don‘t need. It is also about deciding what you you let into your life in the first place.
Did you have a new years resolution. Come on, not a tiny one?
So how is that one going?
Maybe not so good?
Here I have an idea. In fact, its not my idea, I borrowed it from Mike Mandel. As so often simplifying will help your unconscious to have a clear direction what to aim for. So the resolution consists of one word only.
Most likely that word is some kind of nominalization, a verb that you turn into a noun. Mine for example is „sailing“.
Normally a nominalisation can become a bit of a problem in communication because every person interpretates it different. In this case that’s no problem. It is your word and you are the only one who decides what you fill it with and your unconsciousness already knows.
You’ll include that one word into your morning routine, your decision taking process, your meditation, your prayer, whatever you do to keep yourself focused.
This word will start to give you a clear direction. You will start to take decisions that will clear up the path to living your goal.
Who is the fool, the fool or the fool who follows the fool. I read plenty about people who complain about ignorant people at the top and there are for sure enough of them. To mention a few of them:
Especially with Bolzanero being sworn into office at the beginning of this month I read a couple of articles about the world being doomed by the powerful few.
The few who are in control of the media.
The few who control the 100 companies who produce 50% of the worldwide emissions.
The few who produce the weapons that kill so many.
The few who control most of the money.
But guess what, you can’t take over power by yourself. Power is always something that others give to you. Sounds weird? Well let us look at most of the political figures I mentioned at the top. All of them where elected in a democratic progress.
You might argue that they mislead the public with desinformation or that they used injustice in the democratic process, but in the end they somehow played by the rules and a major part of the population wanted them as their leader.
If no one wanted them in the first place, they wouldn’t be where they are right now.
Same for the companies. Ok, they make money with what they are doing, BUT
Same with the weapon industry.
And last but not least we would always have the chance to elect politicians who create laws that would limit those activities. Now I can already hear people complain, that there are no good politician and/or that the ones with good opinion and uncorrupted minds don’t have a chance because they will be discriminated by big bussiness.
Once again, if a majority would vote different tables would turn. It is up to you and every single one of us. If we won’t have a change in politics or in society it is due to a lack of willingness to change among all of us.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
I am finally done planning the Kilimanjaro Tour 2019.
While I already communicated the idea and the rough dates before, the planning has finished now.
The Kilimanjaro Tour 2019 will take place from June 1st to 16th 2019.
Except for summiting Kilimanjaro this tour has something special to offer: It will be a double summit. Meru & Kili. We will hike for 10 days in total with a 2 days break in between because the first 4 days will be a summit of the neighboring Mt Meru followed by 6 days on Mt Kilimanjaro.
You might wonder why I am planning to offer a Kilimanjaro tour in 2019 and haven’t done that much earlier.
The simple reason is that I received my initial inspiration and advice while becoming a coach from a friend who offered Kilimanjaro tours himself. For me it was crystal clear to not interfere with a similar product as long as he is offering the same. I never tried to become a copy and never did. I had to go my own way and learned my lessons in Sahara over the last years. As my friend suddenly announced to discontinue his Kili tours, I was asked by someone who planned to go with him in the first place if we wouldn’t go together. After all had I several years of experience in Tanzania by now, visited the Kilimanjaro region before and flew multiple times just across the peak leaving me questioning when I will stand on that peak myself. Due to my experience in Tanzania I have a pretty good team to rely on by now.
When I was a child I was amazed by Africa. When I thought about it, three things came to my mind:
When I traveled South of the Sahara for the first time in my life, I visited Zanzibar, saw Kilimanjaro & Mt Meru, went to Serengeti & Ngorongoro and knew immediately that I will come back. Especially summiting Kilimanjaro has been on my bucket list ever since.
Because it is the prettier route. While Kili is more abut the size and being the largest in Africa, the Meru is nicer to climb and offers the more spectacular view, especially a cloud free view on Kilimanjaro at sunrise. It is also less traveled and gives you a perfect acclimatization, for the altitude as well as for the culture. Even for me it is a culture clash, every single time that I visit East Africa.
Almost everything is different and I believe it would be a shame to let all that fascinating cultural experience be waisted by only joining the very touristic Kili ascendent. Let us enjoy land, people, culture and scenery some more days and get accustomed to the altitude on a slightly lower mountain. We will have better focus, concentration, joy and breath when starting the summit of the big one?
After all, it is about creating a lasting experience isn’t it?
I don’t know yet if it will be the spiritual journey that I am expecting. I am not and I will not be a travel agent. I do extraordinary self awareness seminars and I choose special places as the seminar place.
If I won’t feel a vibe as strong as in Sahara or if I am not at my best, I won’t do the tour again.
This is the main reason for the special price which will only be available this time. Either the price will go up to reasonable amount for a two week, life changing double summit coaching seminar or it will remain the only one I offer.
So if the Kili has been or your to do list, you might want to consider joining this time.
As I write this I am only accepting two more applications for the trip. So if you are thinking about it, hurry up.
We will go with a very experienced and nice guide Philemon on both tours, we will have a medical doctor with us who has experience in high altitude medicine and tropical medicine. She is also a fluent swahili speaker. I have several years business experience in Tanzania and we will have local backup support by my long time local manager and business partner.
I am sure it will be a blast. Let me know when you want to be on the team.
Happy new year to you.
Thank you for being a listener over the last year. As you might know, has it been a bit bumpy for me and I am sure that you are able to tell your own story about ups and downs.
Always remember that your ups can be somebody elses downs and vice versa.
Everything depends on the perspective. If you could change perspective things could look different and sometimes exactly that change of perspective is too difficult.
Now it gets really weird.
Even reality depends on perspective, whether you see a chair as a chair, wether you can look rigth through it or don’t see it at all depends on perspective. Even whether you see it as matter or only as energy depends on your perspective.
That means that all the images that you have in your mind are only reflection of the reality and when you want to solve a real problem you are always dealing with your own perspective, your own representation of reality and therefor it doesn’t matter if you deal with the problem or create a metaphor which is often way easier to change.
Give it a try.
Interesting read, an end to upside down thinking: amzn.to/2CLVTlW
Last week I talked about accepting help and just after I recorded that, help was offered again and gave me the opportunity to finally move to the new harbor. This left me thinking about help and human interaction in general.
We as human beings and as the human race can not really develop on our own. Some of us might need more contact and others less, but overall we all need contact and help and some point in our life.
We don’t really grow when we are alone. We need to get into contact with the outer world to find jour limits and to expand them. Interaction with other human beings, sharing knowledge and experience is one of the best ways to expand your horizon.
For some of us that is not as easy as for others, especially when financial or cultural boundaries are holding us back. This is where you can take action. You can reach out and help those who can use it most. Unconditional. Just helping because you can (and secretly knowing that it will all come back)
Therefor I founded KIDZ a year ago and I hope you will help me in helping others.
Helping children at KIDZ: k-i-d-z.org
I know everything so much better than everybody else… Sometimes it feels like that from my perspective and I know it is not true. It might result from the fact that I am the only one living inside my head. I am the only only who can see life from my perspective and I feel as others are missing something (well… maybe they are missing my perspective).
In my life I combine these feeling with the strong desire for freedom. I want to be able to achieve everything I want on my own without needing permission. I don‘t want to be dependent, but be able to move, act and live without asking anybody about it.
Therefor I have the tendency to not ask for or accept any help.
But… receiving help, being thankful for it and offering help wherever you can will add to you life and is one step towards happiness.
Helping children at KIDZ: k-i-d-z.org
As I am switching locations on a regular basis, I keep coming back to the Swiss Alps.
This doesn’t happen by accident, but because of the beauty of the region. So many people I talk to know the mountains only from the winter and the skiing resorts.
It is worth a visit in the summer when it is possible to explore the mountains by foot.
I don’t know of any other (de facto) capitol, where you can swim by the parlament because the river is so clean and within half an hour you are in the most beautiful nature.
As I am writing this it is already winter time. I thought it might be a good time to make some plans for the next summer.
Until then, enjoy the winter 😉
I lost something, or at least somebody lost something that was mine which could lead to my first question. What does it mean to be mine or what would I need to do to call something mine.
But that shall be the topic of another episode.
All my German Podcast episodes have been deleted by accident and the Podcast provider does not have any backups. This made me think about win and loss in life and what it actually means if something is not there anymore.
I became ver clear that you just need to look at the atomic or the energetic level to see that nothing is ever lost. It is only transferred to a different level. Nothing is ever gone, it is only somewhere else. That also means that now thought or no person is ever lost. They just don’t exist in the known form anymore.
They transferred into something new. That means in the contrary that every ending is aways the start of a new beginning as well. Whenever you lose something you will gain something else. Keep your eyes open what it might be.
Real man are not fearful, right?
I am not so sure about this. As fear is one the most natural feeling that was guaranteeing the survival of mankind for millenia, it is important to as well have fear, feel fear and even express fear.
It is a sign to us to be careful and cautious about somthing.
Way more important than the feeling itself is what you will do with it. As fear comes from deep inside, from your unconscious mind, it is a feeling that is trying to protect you as your unsconscious always wants your best
Unfortunately it only knows what is best based on what it already knows. That means for you, that every time that you leave your comfort zone fear pops up and tries to warn you of something. Growth only happens, when you leave your comfort zone every once in while and then it is up top you how you go on from there.
For you that means no growth without fear.
I shattered my comfort zone multiple times in the last weeks… but listen yourself.
When I took these picture I wasn’t sailing yet but I made all the agreements to bring my boat to the Mediterranean and splash it in Bandol.
Just wanted to make sure that you have a first impression why I am so excited to start my journey here.
Image you were forever alive. Imagine you’d have to live with all the consequences of your actions. For ever?
Now let us bring that one step further. Imagine you were all the same. Whatever you would do to someone or something else you would do to yourself.
Would that influence your actions?
Momentarily I am reading the book: “An End to Upside Down Thinking: Dispelling the Myth That the Brain Produces Consciousness, and the Implications for Everyday Life” by Mark Gober.
He states that the brain is not creating consciousness but that conscioussnes does exist outside of the material body and in fact is creating everything else.
The one theory that most of these thoughts are based on, is that everything that can be proven by science can only be validated by our conscious mind. There is no proof that anything could ever be validated without a conscious mind to validate it.
We can imagine such a scenario and based on our findings now is has to be exactly the same without our conscious mind. sounds logical but is impossible to be proven. One thing we can not explain so far is how consciousness evolved and how it is created. Almost all aspects of life in this physical world can be explained, but not consciousness.
The foundation of our science is the validation by our consciousness.
Consciousness is proclaimed to be caused by us (our brain) but cannot be proven.
Therefor our whole scientific belief system of the physical worls is based on the one thing that cannot be explained by it and yet is generally considered to the cause for exactly that, our conscious mind.
If you look at it this way it can‘t make sense, therefor the explanation of Makr Gober is to turn it around and say: first was consciousness and it created everything else.
We still don‘t know where it comes from but all of a sudden the scientific system makes sense and errors like the difference between the theorie of relativity and quantum mechanics won‘t cause the whole theoretic system to collapse.
Furthermore the supernatural things that occur in life also make sense.
It would indeed mean something more:
It is not us, it is not me, who created my conscious mind which is different from everybody elses. It would mean that there is only one consciousness, that decided to become partially me in this physical (or physical imagined) world, as well as anybody and anything else on earth.
As a consequence of these thoughts my conscious mind or if you will my soul will never die and might come back in a different packing multiple times. You might live with the results of your actions for eternity. Imagine now, the whole physical world and the life within does only have the one reason, to help the universal consciousness grow….
What would that mean for you and your life?
Mark Gober: An end to upside down thinking: amzn.to/2DehJA3
While planning is mostly done in our frontal cortex, the conscious mind, intuition or gutt feeling is more of an unconscious process.
While for a large part of my life I was sure that the more knowledge I have, the better decisions I can take and therefor become a better person, this belief changed over the last years.
I had to learn that although our conscious decisions seem to make so much sense, our unconsious is really in charge.
When conscious mind is in charge of the navigation, the unconscious is the running the boat, being the skipper. As long as we don’t convince the skipper that our navigation is correct, we can calculate as much as we want and will still never change the course.
Therefor it is not so much a question of planning VERSUS intuition but more planning AND intuition.
Make plans and take decisions what to do and then check back with your intuition if this is the right way to go. Be careful, it speaks in a very soft voice and when you hear it trust your gutt. Your unconscious always wants to protect you and will be your strongest supporter if you act accordingly.
Have you ever traveled with high expectations and where amazed to find everything much more beautiful than you expected?
I visited Corsica at the end of September. My plan was originally to be on my tiny wooden boat somewhere in the North Sea and sail due South in September. But as it wouldn‘t swim yet, due to the cracks in the hull, I had to postpone my plans a bit. The main problem turned out to be, that I couldn‘t work at the marina where it is located at the moment.
Therefor I need a trailer to move it…
That turned out to be a bit tricky and the one I ordered is not finished as I am writing this.
Since I have to move the boat anyway, I thought about bringing it directly to the Mediterranean as winter is coming soon in the North. As I love France and especially the Provence I thougth about launching the boat there and start my journey towards Corsica as soon as the boat is fit.
While I can’t sail at the moment and have to wait for the trailer anyway, I decided to go to Corsica and have a look myself. I figured it would make a wonderful place for the joined sailing trips with my supporters in 2019. Be exited!
As you can see below, it looks remarkable and about the plan to splash the boat in Provence… I‘ll write in another article.
And now have a look at that beautiful island:
I am so lucky and honored that I meet the people I do. While still living in the „Jungfrau Skiing Area“ in Lauterbrunnen in the winter of 2015/16 I decided one day to register for the online class of Mike Mandel & Chris Thompson and it blue my mind. The content was superb and the way that the two where presenting it resonated with me so well that I wanted to train with them personally.
Therefor the first country I traveled to after 10 month in Zanzibar was Canada and I remember freezing my toes of in my sandals in Toronto in May. The training was great and we stayed in contact since then.
Now I am proud to invite you on a nice conversation with Chris with whom I talked about personal experience and lessons on the way to partnering with Mike on the Mike Mandel Hypnosis Academy.
Talking to Toddlers: https://talkingtotoddlers.com
Tim Ferris – 4 hour work week: https://amzn.to/2RSHWIZ
Nooo. Of course not. Django our “African Coconut Retriever” 😉 who was with us for our year in Zanzibar will stay in our memory and will/can never be replaced. But as life goes, you move on.
And other than stuff your collection of memories will never be full. You don’t have to get rid of one memory to add another. Maybe that is what life is all about. Making as many experiences as possible and collecting memories to create a meaningful life. Leaving the past and working on the future by living here and now.
So we decided to get another four leged companion for our adventures and decided on a kind of dog we want to have. Since we didn’t want a dog to be bretd for us we hoped to find one that resonates with us that is already grown and need a new home.
I went to the online and the first side that popped up was a breeder in Switzerland who just got a 2 year old dog back that couldn’t stay with the current family and needed a new home. A beautiful 2 year old Australian Kelpie with a very special expression in his face called: JANGO.
So be it we thought and now Jango is with us and will be our “adventure dog”.
Let’s see how he does on the boat…
Even, if everything on earth can be explained through science.
Imagine that one day mankind is able to create life themself. Once we find out how every details of the genes. What if we find out what makes matter start living, giving that initial impuls. Then there will be no room for religion and spirituality left. At least that is what one might guess, right?
I think the opposite is true. The more we can explain, the wider the horizon will become.
The more we know, the more we realize we don’t know (yet).
Once we understand everything on earth the wonder how it got here in the first place will still remain. We will have no clue what was before and what will be after. If there was eternity and space would never end, that would be as hard to grasp as the concept of end of time and space. Which is what our current knowledge tells us.
Taking this concept of the big gang theory will also lead to the understanding that everything in existence used to be energy some trillion years ago. That leads to the conclusion that we are all one. Not only does everything has the same roots, no, everything has been one and the same.
If we have been the same ages ago, aren’t we still the same today. And I am not only talking about men and women, but your worst enemy as well. Even the food we eat and the house we live in has been the same before and who knows will the same again at some time.
Or may it be the same all the time and we don’t see it because it differs in shape?
That concept is way too logical to be ignored and gives a complete new meaning to the saying:
What you do to others, you do to yourself.
Do you know the main reason for a growing or a shrinking mindset? Mainly it is a decision that you make. Are you thankful for what you have and do you appreciate everything that you’ll gain in life or are you fearful to loose what you have and are afraid for anything new?
That is the interesting perspective. It often is the same cause that let’s you feel one or the other and it is only in your mind that you change your reaction to it.Gratitude is rooted in love and therefor will trigger positive emotions and thoughts. Those lead to a positive spirit and will help you go through life with much more ease than had you chosen to go for fear and hate.The wonderful thing about it, is that you can choose each time that you feel fear. Just turn it around and be thankful for having what you already have and go on from there. All the positivity in your head. It’s not changing the world around you, but your perspective and therefor changing your world around you!
As so often, it is a choice.
Give it a try!
Everything on Earth. No, everything in the Universe only exist in relation to its opposite. Nothing can exist without being what it is not.Does it feel strage to read that? What about this? The text you are reading appears probably in black and can only be seen because it is written or dispalyed on something that is not black. When you hear the podcast you can only hear my voice because it is differentiating to the other noises around you.As these might be easy examples and are quite logical when you think about them, you can extend this concept on eveything else in life.
All that you value and love gets its importance to you olnly from the existance of its opposite. Wouldn‘t you fear or hate the opposite, you would‘t love it as much.
If that last sentence was true, could there be any truly bad in life? Or would eveything bad in your life only exist to give you the possibility to experience its opposite?
May good and bad be only creations of our mind to give things a value in relation to our own life?
If you take one thing out of this? Be careful how you judge, because it is always your own judgement and might not apply to others. Good and bad only exist in relation to the goal you want to achieve.
The are no alternativeless decisions, there are only decisions and keep in mind who it is, you want to be as this determines was is right for you.
It always was and always will be your choice.
September 5th is a special day to me. It brought people to my life that made me who I am today and I want to dedicate this episode to them. Almost or temporarily losing these people it draw some conclusions that helped me ever since.
Most important to me was the realization that the closer I was to certain people, the more I expected from them. There have been times in my life that I even expected my loved ones to make up for my own mysery. What I couldn‘t find in my own life, I wanted them to add.
When they couldn‘t provide that, I mean… think about it, how should anybody else be able to create something in your life and therefor in your brain that you couldn‘t even create yourself?
You are the only on who can change anything in your life, because your thoughts, your words and your actions are the only things that you are in control of anyway. Furthermore that conclusion made me realize that I have no right to expect anything from anybody else. Neither am I entitled to make anyone be with me, nor can I own anyone. We are all free people.
Love people while they are around and let them go when they want to. Enjoy each moment as you will lose them sooner or later. Let hate and fear go and make room for love and gratitude. Life will pay back.
I love you my friend, I love you my son!
I don’t know how old you are, but I guess you are also getting older. Last winter I went on a couple of mountains with my split board and I was so unfit. I thought that I am just not a fit as I used to because I am getting older.But the truth is that there were people way older than me. They were maybe in their 70th and they were fitter that me.This spring and summer I picked up some exercise and well, I am much better in shape than this winter. I don’t feel that worn out anymore… although I am half a year older. I think that age is mainly in your head. The younger you think, the younger you act, the younger you feel.That is the real topic of todays episode. It is all about the story you tell yourself. It is about feeling the joy of a child and maintain that feeling and the positive story for all your life.
I am a maximalist, that’s why I became a minimalist.
What? How does that make sense?
I think it does, although it took me more than 30 years to realize. As long as I can remember I could not get enough. It did not matter whether it was playing a game, a vacation I was on, a mountain I was hiking, stuff that I owned.
I just couldn’t get enough. I wanted more and got frustrated easily when I couldn’t get it.
I believe that a major reason for me to get frustrated was, that I never focused 100% on one thing. I could do everything in life, right? The older I grew the more I realized that I could also own everything that I was longing for.
After all… I knew people who were coming from nowhere and who owned all the fancy stuff now.
What I didn’t see back then, is that they where paying a price for everything. A day has only 24 hours and each moment can only be spend on one thing at a time. So even if you have enough money to buy almost everything, you will have to take decisions to do either this or that with your time. Even owning a motorbike, a sportcar and a sailing boat, you can only use one at a time. The more you add to your possessions the more you have to limit your time for that.
Apart from that, most people I know had to earn their money somehow. When I had a closer look at the job they needed to do in the first place, it was nothing that I ever wanted to do. At least not for more than a week.
That is the problem about comparing yourself with others. Compare and dispair. You only see the result and not the work they put in the previous years. You also don’t see the unfulfilled dreams they secretly have.
Everything comes with a price. Maybe they are in a bad relationships, maybe they don’t see their kids, maybe they would love to have more time for themselves, maybe their success comes with the price of bad health.
Furthermore we tend to compare ourself mostly to multiple other people and see the different things they achieved, all of them coming with another price and each one of them lacking the others achievements.
Now one remains unhappy and feels unsuccessful as long as you don’t own everything that others do.
Well that is the perfect ingredient to become and remain unhappy for the rest of your life.
That’s what I did for the longest time. Looking back, I already did a lot of fun things, but kept focusing on what I did not have yet… and I felt miserable.
I came to I realized one day that three steps are important for me:
I need to focus on myself. What do I really want? I mean really want. Next I needed to find out what was the underlying motivation of this and then prioritize for which one I want to go first. Sometimes I found out that I could satisfy the needs completely different or combine two or three of the needs with a different action.
Knowing what you really want, knowing your basic desires for happiness.
Stop doing things that you don’t want to do. Do things that help you be the one you want to be. Focus on your desires and prioritize. Work on the things you love most, first.
Compare myself to one person only: to myself yesterday! Comparing to others is the perfect way towards an unhappy life, no matter how much you own. If you know what you really want and who you want to be, check daily whether you are one step further today than you were yesterday. If you are not. Adjust.
Sooner that you think you will have changed your life 180°. Stay focused and thankful with what you already have and go on from there.
Because I wanted to have everything and couldn’t get enough of what I already had, I started to focus on what I wanted most. All of a sudden I became l much better and had more of what I desired most. Therefor I had go get rid of all the distractions in my life that where not helping me to fulfill my dream of living the life I love.
Minimizing helped me to maximize what I love most!
Chasing dreams and achieving goals is about knowing the straight way right? Without distraction and with a clear focus directly towards your personal summit?
Well, knowing where you want to go is definitely a plus, but you might face obstacles or barriers that are impossible to overcome.
There is no way to fight the wind when you’re on a sailing boat. It might be much smarter to adjust your course and trim the sails. What appears to be the wrong course might actually be the only way to reach your destination.What is true for trekking, hiking, climbing or sailing might have its expression in business or personal life as well.In case you struggle, you can take a step back and have a look at the broader picture to find out if there might be an easier route with a slightly different angle or approach.
We can’t learn, when we receive no feedback. We will at least never find out if our progress is going in the desired direction.We will loose contact to the base. Therefor is it so important to act, to actually do something and get our work and actions out there. Then we will receive feedback upon which we can react. Everything is connected and action causes a reaction and if we don’t listen to the feedback we won’t know which reaction we are provoking in the world.
In case you are interested in making the world a better place as I am, you might want to ask for feedback. Especially the feedback that you don’t like. The things that go wrong, the things where you face obstacles and where people don’t like what you are doing.
Then listen to it and take it as a hint what to do better in the future. Always compare it to the one you want to be. Does it bring you closer or further apart. And then act accordingly.
My journey to declutter started in 2012. I reached a point where I didn’t thrive for more. At least not for more possessions. I wanted to have more joy, more laughter and more contentment.
I was looking for more meaning in my life. Through different blogs and writers I ended up with a person who had just taken a phenomenal decision and was traveling the world while writing: Colin Wright and his blog: Exile Lifestyle.Colin was talking about friends who called themselves “the minimalists“.
Yes, that’s right, those minimalist whom I referring to so often. I kept following all three of them throughout the last years and they have been a major influence for my own way.
By now, Colin is producing one of the best curated podcasts out there: Let’s Know Things. One of the few podcast, where I listen to each episode. Today I am thrilled to talk to Colin about life, minimalism and a vision for life.
I knew I want to travel the world. I knew I want to go sailing. I knew I want to go South.
I recently found out that I want to travel as light as possible… even on the water. I was looking for a boat that is as small as possible and still be safe enough to do some serious sailing. After my experience with Emma, our 45 year old Mercedes Camper Van, I knew I want to travel with a boat that is easy to maintain, wherever I am on this planet.
My dream was and is to turn the whole project into an experience worth sharing. I have already done some great journeys and the most amazing has always been to share it.
Fun, joy and love are some of the very few things that get more when you share them. When I was on my own, I struggled to enjoy the beautiful sunsets, the incredible mountain range or the endless ocean as much as I did when I was able to share it.
Therefor I am will document the whole journey on Patreon where you join me, starting at a buck per month. That is basically an espresso every other month and therefor you’ll be part of trip and you’ll receive exclusive content as well.
AND I am going to take people with me. That might be friends, customers or patrons. As I wanted to see if anyone is interested in that project at all, I started the kickstarter campaign three weeks ago, maybe you remember.
Actually it will be online for another roughly 15 hours when this is published and I am so happy that it is fully financed. Nevertheless, if you want to leave a € or two, you are more than welcome. There is also the possibility to purchase a week with me on the boat in 2019. CLICK HERE
I call it camping on the water, as it is a tiny boat compared to all the huge plastic boats you see around, but I can guarantee you, you‘ll have as much fun as you possibly can and it will be an experience of your life.
Are you on board?
Time changes! All the time!
As one second and one moment always connects to the next one, life feels like a constant flow.
On the one hand it actually is and on the other hand all we have is NOW. Decisions are always taken now. Although you can take the experiences from the past into account it remains the moment of now that you take your decision.
It is the combination of your past that will lead to a decision now, that can shape your future.
A coach of mine once told me that our unconscious mind is always protecting us and that decisions we take are always in our best intentions. No body really wants to hurt itself, at least not as long as there some more valuable secondary gain that it will take out of that action.
If you realize that, you will come to the conclusion that whenever you took a clear and congruent decision, it was the right decision. It was as good of a decision as it could possibly be in the moment you took it.
Has it ever proofed to be the wrong decision afterwards because you received feedback that showed you information, you didn’t have before?
Well, it remains the right decision for that very moment you took it. There was something that you didn’t know yet and which you needed to find out to become more aware.
While your heart/soul thrives for something, your mind will create the decision and circumstance for your body to experience it. Then your body will give a feedback of gained knowledge back to your heart and you can thrive for something else.
Let the grieve (about wrong decisions) go and focus on what you are going to do with the new knowledge for the rest of your life.
I myself planned this year to be different. I had plans and goals and dreams and wishes. Then life happened. Other people around me took decisions that I had not foreseen and as everything in life is connected one way or another it made realizing some of my goals impossible.
It was up to me to take this knew knowledge into account. Some blogposts back I told you that I was going to run across the alps by foot and that I wanted to document the journey of this summer. Then I went to Zanzibar and suddenly had to adjust all of my plans. A lot went wrong for me and I reprioritized, had to rearrange some things and had to focus on some other projects. These made running out in the mountains for some weeks not possible…
And… I took the new gained freedom to turn a dream of mine into reality. I always wanted to go sailing. Not around one bay for an hour or so, but for distant places and far away lonely beaches with no schedule to come back.
I needed my own boat and now I have one. I went for the smallest wooden boat that I could find and which is still safe enough to go for larger distances and now I am going to write and publish about this journey instead.
More about my folkboat in another post.
Whatever happens to you is often out of your control. Your reaction to that in contrary is your own choice. I decided to turn the amount of freedom that I momentarily have into the chance to live a childhood dream.
Since I don’t want to do that alone I am inviting you to join me on the adventure around the world.
kickstarter project: kck.st/2uelZbE
I was thinking about this project for quite a while. In fact it has been a dream of mine since I saw sailing boats for the first time and could feel a glimpse of the freedom that it would mean to travel the ocean.
I want to do it my way and still… I don’t want to do it alone. Therefor I decided to bring as many people on board this very special project and launch it on kickstarter.
Travel the world with me:
In 2012 I took the decision to go for my childhood dream of sailing the world before the year 2021. At that time I had no idea how to ever do that. I wasn’t able to sail, I thought all boats cost 250.000,- upwards and I was afraid when I couldn’t see land or was alone in the dark.
Sailing the world before I’m forty and somehow that thought stuck around all that time. In the rearview, a lot of the decisions I have taken since then make sense now. I went alone to Sahara, passed my sailing license, went on regattas, lived in a camper for 8 months, built up my coaching business, left my corporate job, built up a Lodge in Zanzibar, minimized my possessions…
Most of these gave me either a great deal of personal freedom, the experiences I needed or both.
By now I am just missing roughly 3.000,- to achieve that goal of restoring a historic wooden boat. Unfortunately I lost my Lodge in Zanzibar due to fraud and greed. This took me a bit off the financial planning for this and the next year… On the other hand did it give me the opportunity to plan even more freely than before.
Since I never planned to just go sailing on my own, but turn it into an experience that I wanted to share with others, that I want to share with you, I came up with the idea to sell some of my ideas for next year upfront to kickstart the project in 2018, to be ready for you in 2019.
I am going for a nordic folkboat, because it is one of the smallest boat categories that can make it across the Atlantic ocean. It is the most popular boat class and it has been around forever (75 year). That leaves me with a good price range to be affordable.
Furthermore is it small enough to be maneuvered completely without an engine. The construction is simple enough, wooden planks, tiller steering, simple rigging, to be maintained and repaired by myself while traveling. I am planning to go without a build-in-engine since it is my goal to travel the world without using (plastic) or burning (petrol) any fossil carbon.
I am not looking for the best comfort, but for the greatest experience. Which I am going to share with you.
I created this project with a pledge of 3.000,- but have plenty of room to improve. If I make this minimum amount I can finish all needed projects. Everything above will also be invested in the project and will go into further improvement of the boat, water desalination, solar power, better anker, new rigging. That leaves me hoping for a multiple of the original amount asked for.
While traveling I have a mission to work on:
I believe that each one of us has a deep rooted desire to live life in a way that feels good and won’t hurt or harm anyone else.
True love is always sustainable. Therefore I believe that raising the awareness for an eco-friendly and sustainable lifestyle as well as a life worth living belongs together. I signed, respect and live the pledge of the United Nations Clean Seas Organisation with their Slogan: turn the tide on plastic!
If you want and are willing to help me to realize the: “LIVE THE LIFE YOU LOVE – world tour”!
Thank you for making this possible, Floh
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I am going for my dreams for quite a while now and new dreams keep showing up in my life, making the old ones obsolete. It seems as if I can´t get tired of something new and that is just the way that I am motivated.
How are you?
What motivates you most and are you sure, that these are your own desires or are you trying to please someone externally.
Make sure your dreams are your own and that they meet the underlying cause. Match your motivation with your values and your beliefsystem. Create a smart goal for your unconscious mind to be your guidance towards living the life you love.
Who am I?: 16 Basic Desires
I am so thrilled to be able to present you an inspiring young couple: Kika and Dan. They decided to not buy a couch and settle down after graduation, but instead invest all they had into an old sailing boat that still had to be renovated before they could even launch it into the water.
What amazes me most about the two is not, that they are living their dream on a sailing boat, but that they made it there against all odds.
They managed to deal with frustration, with the lack of money and the lack of comfort. No matter how big the setback in the beginning was, they kept their smile and humor.
Enjoy the conversation and when you like to see more check out the links:
Fear seems to be one of the most limiting factors in life. As true love can be the most motivating one and is able to move mountains or tear them down fear can build them up.
The strange things about fear though is, that fear happens only in your head and mostly deals with the future. Can you even remember the last time that you were frightened here and now?
This happens only in situations that are really dangerous for you and it makes sense to run away or fight.
It is activating your fight or flight response. As a constant process in your head and in your body it may be even quite harmful.
As the thing that you are worrying about is in the future it can help to let the fearful idea go and focus on a positive outcome instead. At least a way to manage a way to take. responsibility for your action and take the decisions that serve you best.
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Last time I promised you a feedback about my time in Zanzibar and well… here we go. This has been a disturbing time for in May and I had my struggles to focus on the positive side of things.
Yet, what does it do any good to not not see things positive. It is as it is and the only thing truly matters, is the question of who to be in relation to that.
I strongly believe that each one has the right to be different. I want that right to be based on honesty and understanding. I think it is helpful to speak up against it publicly. No matter if family, a group of friends, a business or a whole society is involved.
Don’t give room for betrayel and grief and fight for honesty, transparency, understanding and loving care!
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Now that I kept talking about Patreon in the last blogposts, podcasts and elsewhere, I think that I should at least give you an overview about what Patreon is all about. The short version and official description on their platform is this:
Patreon is a service that allows to collect ongoing financial contribution for projects.
My longer version is this:
Patreon is a social media platform very similar to Facebook. You can create you own profile and post content: texts, links, audio and video. Just like facebook, the content can be uploaded to Patreon itself or linked to another source.
Other members at Patreon can access your timeline and subscribe to it (just as liking a page on facebook).
Here comes the huge difference: Subscribers to a certain page, can financially contribute. There can be different contribution levels with different benefits attached to it. The creator on the other hand, can decide who is allowed to access which content. Free for all, for all Patreons or for a certain contribution (pledge) level only. The contribution will be due each time that the Creator decides to upload a paid content. Each subscriber/contributer can decide how often per month he wants to pledge maximum.
Furthermore Patreon has a community platform, which is comparable to writing on somebodies timeline on facebook. Once again this may be limited for contributing Patrons only.
I also use Patreon and the different contribution levels to grant different access to my website at Happylife.Coach.
And as an important side affect, I am using Patreon to collect money for our education project in Zanzibar. 50% of all my pledges will go to K-I-D-Z.org and finance education for undepriviledged children.
Support me & KIDZ on Patreon, patreon.com/flohjoe
It is easy to be the person you want to be when you are in control. When everything is going exactly the way it way planned, you might emotionally not be disturbed. But what happens when you lose control?
What happens when everything goes wrong. When things are not going as planned, when you are frightened, when you are terrified. How much of your higher self can you maintain when your emotions are going wild. Unfortunately I tested that in the last week, where I didn’t publish anything and I can tell you, I learned a lot.
As I am writing this I am traveling in Morocco, recording some video Material in Marrakesh and the High Atlas for you. (Soon to be published for my Patreon supporters)
After posting about personal motivation and plans for the current year, I can now tell you about one major project for this summer.
I will travel to Tanzania soon and beside some Caveman projects in Zanzibar, I will travel across the whole country which will end up in endless miles on the road. My plan is to reach the lake Victoria, which is regarded by many as the source of the Nile. I will cross it by boat and later make it all the way back to Zanzibar. I will take you with me on this journey for sure. I will also document my time in Zanzibar and the Caveman progress.
After my return I will head to Provence for this years edition of the RIDING experience. Taking last years film crew of the SAHARA experience I am so excited to have a documentation about the magic that happens on that tour. Sitting on a horse and therefor interacting with another living being all day as well as being surrounded by the most stunning landscape is only one part of the experience. The other will be intense coaching sessions, metaphor stories and hypnosis experiences.
My way back to Switzerland from Provence will then take a while. My plan is to run by foot. I will be mainly unsupported on my run across the Alps. I wish to make it at least across the main mountain range and reach Italy. Depending on weather and condition I will proceed to the Italian coast at Triest and you will know about it, since I will write and post about it life on different channels. By the way have you checked out my Instagram yet? I post my nicest pictures there.
I think it has been long enough since my last physical project… crossing the alps from North to South together with my friend Markus as a part of the transalpine run. The plans are not 100% fix yet and I will go with the flow since I believe that life should be fun..
Having told you in previous posts that:
I realized once again that I love most to inspire people.
I also want to help improve peoples life.
I love to travel, be outside and be physical active.
I love to create lasting memories.
I want to be on an adventure most of the time.
I love motivating people to join me on a journey.
I love to share my stories.
I am ok with sitting my butt down and record my ideas into a podcast, write it down for a blog post or record a video for a publication. I am ok, improving my website, cutting the podcast and videos. I am fine with sitting down with people on very specific times to help them overcome their own obstacles.
I absolutely hate to talk people into something. I don’t enjoy building a marketing funnel. I don’t like selling to people who have no need for buying.
I figured, that although I love coaching and the adventure seminars, I don’t want to be a traditional Coach, I don’t want to have my office downtown. I don’t want to schedule back to back coaching where people stop by for an hour.
No! I want to be a part of your life. I want to leave a lasting impression. And I want to empower people over a period of time to help them change life for the better.
And while doing that I want to keep growing mentally. That means to learn new stuff, discover areas of the world I haven’t seen before. Meet new people, learn from other cultures and get inspired by the beauty of this world.
While doing that, I want to share it with as many people as possible.
Therefor I am slightly shifting my focus.
I will keep running the “simplicity of happiness” blog & podcast. All content will remain for free and I will focus mainly on the English content, publishing blogpost in English only.
I am asking you and all my listeners though, to invite me on a cup of coffee every now and then through the Patreon website.
I will also keep the website and the services at Happylife.Coach. I will just move to more online content with short coaching interventions and webinars. The possibility for one on one coaching will be limited to only a very few and of course my main focus will remain on the adventure seminars, that will need to fill up to a critical limit 6 month ahead of time to be confirmed. All access, to coaching videos, webinars and my one on one coachings will be granted through Patreon https://patreon.com/flohjoe. That means that other than the simplicity of happiness content, a Patreon membership is required to access the Happylife.Coach content (starting at 2$…)
As you can see, the centerpiece of my work will be accessible through Patreon. My main work will consist of producing and uploading up to 4 inspirational videos per month, where I am taking you on my journey and projects offering you insides, thoughts and learnings as well as special prices for the events, access to single coachings and special at the Caveman Lodge in Zanzibar.
Some of that content will later be available on Youtube as well, but you will only get early access or access to the exclusive content when you are a member at Patreon.
So I am asking to join me on my journey and get access to all my work with simply joining me here.
Just in case you are wondering, you will find me on most social networks under the nickname: flohjoe
It is now about one year that I am not actively working for ESCP Europe anymore. Although that I am already living my life and worklife relatively self-determined for some years now, I can tell you that it is a huge difference when nobody expects anything from you anymore.
Furthermore and quite important to me, did my son and his mother move so far away that I have absolutely no chance on seeing him on a regular basis anymore. In fact I have seen him only ones in the last 30 month.
Despite this being very frustrating, it leaves me being responsible for nobody at the moment.
Since I have reduced my financial obligation to almost zero in the last years… not being dependent on anyone and not being responsible for anyone is quite an unusual situation to me.
Apart from true freedom, this can also be very scary. I can or even have to ask myself for every single action I do: what is purpose behind it and why are you about to do it?
The only one who can put a reason behind it is myself. There is absolutely no one left to blame in on. Every single step is purely because I take an active decision for it.
This has, if you look at it closely, always been the case… (just like in your life) and still did I so often try to find an excuse, why something is somehow just not my choice and others make me do this or that.
Does that idea sound familiar to you? Well, realizing that whatever situation you are in, it were your own previous choices that brought you there is the first place.
Realizing that is the first step to personal freedom.
The scary thing though, is that freedom doesn’t always feels like fun. It sometimes is hard work. Being responsible for your own thoughts and actions will give you no other choice than put you actions where your mouth is.
You are the only one in charge on where life will take you. You are the only one to put in the work that will take you to where you want to be?
But guess what?
You will have to go through some ups and downs. You might ask yourself not only what you’d enjoy most… while making your way towards your goal, but also what you’d be willing to suffer.
Be honest with yourself. Are there things, that you are just not going to do? Maybe you go down a different road instead?
So, where did this lead me, you might ask?
I realized that I love to inspire people. I want to help improve peoples life. I also love to travel, be outside and be physical active. I love to create lasting memories. I want to be on an adventure. I love motivating people to join me on a journey. I love to share my stories.
I am ok with sitting my butt down and record my ideas for a podcast, write it down for a blog post, record a video for a publication.
I am ok, improving my website, cutting the podcast and videos. I am fine with sitting down with people on very specific times to help them overcome their own obstacles.
I absolutely hate to talk people into something. I don’t enjoy building a marketing funnel. I don’t want to create an event where I then have to sell it to people to join.
Let’s take the Caveman Lodge for example. I don’t want to find people whom I need to talk into a vacation in Zanzibar and then into staying at my Lodge. No I want to do it the other way around. Be found be people who are looking for a vacation anyway. Put my offering out and help them to have a remarkable time while they are there.
It turned out that I want to do something quite similar with Happylife.Coach.
I’ll tell you what that is in my next posting.
Have you ever struggled with your mission? The why behind your Job, your project or your duty? Well, I see very often that people are getting confused with their original goals and the results that they are actually measuring.
Although unaware to most of us, we were given a shortcut to our unconscious mind. To our autonomic nervous system, which runs everything important to our life without our conscious mind even recognizing it.
Our breath and our lungs are the only organ that we can consciously control. Since our breath directly influences our physiology, our state and our performance, you can do as well. Activate you sympathetic or your parasympathetic nervous system in a breath.
This is why we founded a children education project: KIDZ.
Although I believe one should not put too much meaning in the end of the year I am still using the date for a little review of the old and an outlook into the new year. Especially with Christmas season, plenty of time, new year and my birthday all within two weeks there are quiet a few reasons for a review.
End of December I came back from 4 weeks in Zanzibar and had family and friends time in the Swiss mountains. I love the difference between the winter and the tropical island and gives me the opportunity to get the best out both world.
One thing lacking in Zanzibar is education though. I am not talking about an European school or value system at all. I mean having enough basic knowledge to be able to form an own opinion. In contrast to that the local eduction focuses on stupid repetition only.
Therefor the only way to receive an ‚important‘ and/or ‚powerful‘ position later in life is through intransparency, misinformation or just force.
Most people in Zanzibar fit into one of the following roles, the dictating authoritative or the repressed person. Sometimes people are both depending on the situation. Both roles lead to a stagnation in society, which nobody enjoys. Almost everybody you ask, is unhappy about the lack of possibilities, the amount of wages being paid, the ongoing corruption, the inability of the officials and so on.
It is sad that although nobody likes the status quo, nobody is able or willing to change for the better. I belief that one major reason for that is education, which be it at home or at school consists mainly of two things: shut up and repeat.
Young people learn to sneak around, not getting caught and repeating what is expected without understanding why. Society is a mirror of that.
Now that I somehow slipped into being a Hotel owner in the most southern village in Zanzibar I asked myself what to do about it. I thought that I have the chance to either complain as well or do something about it and I chose the latter.
Back in Switzerland we founded the association „KIDZ individual development for Zanzibar“ K-I-D-Z.org and we are collecting donations to send as many kids from Kizimkazi as possible to a private non for profit school. At the moment private school seems to be the only form of education that makes a difference, at least until enough people become aware how important a decent education is and the public school system will start to improve.
If you want to support that idea, you can either head over to K-I-D-Z.org directly or support me on Patreon patreon.com/flohjoe where you will also support the children in Zanzibar as well as exclusive content from me.
Should I upload own videos on Youtube? What would be the difference to my Podcast channel and what happens if no one watches them?
These have been questions that went through my head by the end of the old year. Three things influenced me most to go for a YES.
1. Sometimes I was not able to transport the magical impressions that I had on my trips, journeys and coaching seminars in writing or photos. I wanted to take you with me.
2. I started watching some Youtube Channels about boat journeys and am amazed to see people and projects develop. The excitement is so much more realistic when you follow real life people and projects evolve.
3. In my Podcast conversation with John Lee Dumas of EO Fire he left with the advice that if you touch only one person it was worth it.
So I decided to give it a try and started to make the best out of what I already had, put together a shaky video of the RIDING experience. At the same time I started recording more video material, cut a much better version for the SAHARA experience, bought a new camera and have plenty of material for the following episodes.
I don’t think any special publishing tool better than any other or even the best, the just show life from a different perspective. However you prefer it you can now follow my stories and ideas here in writing or as:
I am on my way back to Zanzibar as I write this.
I left the island May 5th to travel to Toronto, Canada where I met Chris Thompson and Mike Mandel of MikeMandelHypsnosis.
On the one hand I was tired of the island, tired of the slow processes, tired of the officials who are just not willing to help for any process.
Often it seemed to me, as if people I worked with are only interested in their own corruption money and once you gave it to them forget about it immediately so you will have to start all over again.
As soon as you plan to make any fast progress it will be more than likely that you reach a point of frustration sooner or later.
On the other hand, I was so exited to go to Canada and was even more impressed to reach Canada, where it seemed to me, as if everybody was just friendly and helpful.
If there was kind of problem to appear, somebody came to immediate help. I even arrived at the airport with a number twist in my visa application. Somebody called the embassy and sorted it out.Even better was my one week training with Mike Mandel, where I had hoped to learn some insights and gadgets about Hypnosis. I thought that I might catch up some party gags that I could use to make people more curious about their unconscious mind.What I did not expect was such a profound and deep training into hypnosis as a coaching tool. We did not only learn how to hypnotize, but also how to utilize our learnings to help people improve their own life. While learning our own consciousness and unconscious mind improved dramatically.
After Canada I stayed in Germany for two weeks and then went on vacation in Ethiopia for three week where I had enough time to deepen the learnings of the one week in Canada.
Now I am on the way back to Zanzibar and am curious to see the Caveman Lodge again. It seems as if our team has done a great job and is well prepared for the Zanzibar summer. Some of the official documents that where missing when I left are still not processed, but I guess that is part of the deal when you get in exchange the life on a tropical island.Although I have experienced and seen so much, on Zanzibar almost nothing has changed while I was gone. When nothing is changing, or at least not with any recognizable speed, it just makes no sense to hurry up with whatever you are doing.So maybe, I am asking myself, there is nothing such as a universal time for all. Maybe time is only what we experience and everybody has its own.
Wherever you are, wherever you go. Take your time. What you make of now, is what you make of life.
I discovered my own kind of time distortion over the last 6 month. In the rearview they took for ever and I have no idea where they went and how all of that could have happened so fast.
Early May, shortly after Django suddenly died, as I wrote in the second last post, I left for Canada and my hypnosis training with Mike Mandel, followed by a stop over in Berlin and a nearly one month trip to Ethiopia (see my last post).
After Ethiopia we went back to Zanzibar to do the final preparation of the Lodge for the coming high season. Some stuff broke or collapsed in the very intense rainy season and had to be repaired.
We left end of June for Switzerland where Judy had to start her new job at Berns main hospital.
Since then we share a small apartment in Bern with another doctor. I jumped all the way into computer work. I was so happy to finally have sufficient internet again and jumped onto my new website since I had rebranded everything to Happylife.Coach, went for English only and planned to offer some downloadable products.
That meant a lot of time sitting in front of my computer in the smoking hot summer, it had been.
In between I tried to be in the mountains as much as possible and train for my ultra runs in the mountains and in Berlin. Training was a ton of fun and I enjoyed every moment out on the trails. The runs went not as good as expected and where a mental setback, leaving me surprised on how much I seemed to have lost while living on sea level for so long and having no possibility to train in the mountains.
Soon it was end of August and we discovered the possibility to get hold of a small mountain hut near Bern. Situated at 5250ft and with a stunning view we went for it immediately, not knowing yet how much work it would be. The house is not connected to any public infrastructure and will not even have a road for 6 months in the winter. I’ll write more about that in another post.
Mid September I offered the very first edition of the RIDING experience in Southern France and it was lovely and magnificent. We will go on the second tour in June 2018 while all of the lavender is blossoming.
Back in Switzerland I jumped head first into the work on our house Heidi, as it is called and left for edition #6 of the SAHARA experience mid October where I brought a film crew to shoot a little documentary about the tour. It was purely magic.
Nov. 1st I returned to Heidi (which can be booked through AirBnB now) in the mountains and am now day in and out working on the house to prepare it for the winter season. Already covered in snow I am very positive to be ready before I leave to Zanzibar 28th November to check back on the Lodge and prepare everything for the winter high season. It feels like the blink of an eye since I published the last blog post but looking back it seems an eternity since I left Zanzibar. I suppose that’s a good sign and am looking forward for a great winter season in the mountains… After returning from the tropical island.
One time a moment takes for ever. Another time it seems as if time is not passing at all. You experience the same amount of time completely different then another time?
That can also happen in hypnosis. When a hypnotic subject is in a really deep hypnotic state and experiences some major internal shifts he might come back and either think he has been gone for only second when it was indeed 30 minutes or he might have experienced it as hours when it where only very few minutes.
Something similar can happen when you are very much concentrated and focused on something you do. You might drive home in the evening and can’t even recall how you got there. Or you are waiting for that airplane to finally arrive and you are so concentrated on that, that it takes for ever.
Which is, I think quiet logical, if you regard hypnosis as a very ultra high concentration state. I often use this example to show that Hypnosis it not at all anything special, or even magic whoowhoo (although it might feel like that). A hypnotic state is something very usual and common to being human.
I would even suggest that you spend your time doing stuff, where you forget about time at all. Imagine spending your day with a project where you even forgot to look at you watch and you only notice when you are done. You might come close to happiness.
YOU ARE THE BOSS of your own thoughts. That’s right. If it wasn’t you, who is in charge, who is?
This episodes is about how to manage your own thoughts and how happiness is a choice.
Episode #128 was supposed to be the end of my 100 days of daily podcasting that I was going for earlier this year. But I realized about half way through, that this was not right for me. Quality decreased, because it became harder and harder to have something meaningful to say when podcasting is not the only thing you do. Furthermore it put to many limitations on me concerning my traveling and the need to have a fast internet connection available.
So I changed my approach and keep developing it.
Today I am giving a little review (and outlook) to my adventure seminars. Why did I chose to walk in Sahara, go sailing or riding? I experienced that all these activities are strongly linked to personal development.
What does it mean: „to be in control“ and why is it only an illusion. How can you you gain control of your life by letting go of trying to be in control? And why do you need be able to let go of you desire most to enjoy it even more.
No matter how bad things are, you should never give up being nice. Otherwise it will come back as some point in your life. Even more important is that you are creating and enforcing a rude culture.
Next time that you disagree with a situation or person it might be you who will be mistreated.
Watch yourself and you will be the first step to change the world!
Sitting in my mountains home in Switzerland ‚Heidi‘ and recording this Podcast I have to think about what brought me here. Mainly it was facing my fears and going for what I want.
It hasn’t been always like that and what was holding me back before was the lack of being confident and congruent.
I belief that yo only get old once you stop learning. When you stop educating yourself your brain gets lazy and stupid.
The constant education of yourself is one major difference of becoming old and wise instead of old and stubborn.
However high your goals are, however good you are prepared, you won’t get there if your body doesn’t let you. If you want to reach your goals and enjoy your life you will need a body that is capable of doing so.
Watch your body to strengthen your mind.
Only when it is really quiet around me I realize how loud it normally is. Only when I am quiet I realize how busy I normally keep myself. Only in quietness I can truly listen to myself.
Where do you enjoy quietness? At home, on a run, in the mountains, at the ocean, in the nature? Wherever, go for it more often.
Who do you think you are?
The answer to this question gives a very good inside on how you talk to yourself. Do you have a deeper understanding of yourself or are you your emotions and actions?
Are you depressed?
Are you happy?
Are you lazy?
Are your busy?
Or do you feel depressed or happy and act lazy or busy?
Sometimes I run, walk or hike to beautiful places and I have the feeling as if I would have never experienced the true beauty of those places, had i taken a car to get there. I was wondering why and part of that reason could be that running is one kind of meditation. Another could be that time is not always the same.
Earlier this year I attended a conference of digital nomads. Although I was skeptical at first I really enjoyed the conference. It once again reminded me, how important it is to surround yourself with likeminded people.
If there is a shortcut for happiness, then this. Go for whatever makes you happy directly instead of working for money to try to buy it later. Sometimes you just need to do it and sometimes you can trade for whatever you already have or know.
Every problem that you face is special to you and the answer lies within you. Just, so often it is so hard to see as long as you are in the problem state. The easiest way to leave that state is to focus on your thankfulness. People who act out of a thankful state will have the most powerful access to their resources. Go for it.
I just decided to offer another adventure seminar in 2017. After the riding and the sahara experience, you will also have the opportunity to com to Zanzibar with me to enjoy the beautiful tropical island with all its wonders of the indian ocean. We will have the Caveman Lodge exclusively for us and will be out on the water as much as possible. Just relax, chill and find out about your dreams.
Sometimes stuff happens that we just don’t deserve. It is unfair that it happens to us (again) and we are looking for somebody to blame. Maybe that is only one part of the story. Maybe there is a good reason behind. One of the major principles in my coaching is to look for the present in anything that happens to you. Take for example the story of the lost wheel in the middle of the largest National Park in Africa. Self driving an alone…
It came with a big present as I found out later. Hear yourself.
What does luxury mean to you?
I had to think a lot about it, when I saw, that people relaxed more than I ever thought at my simple style Zanzibar lodge. Maybe the real luxury is the absence of what we normally don’t have.
The calmness, the quietness, the simplicity of life?
As long as I can remember I was fascinated by hypnosis but thought it was nothing more than a party trick. When I had the chance to practice hypnosis with Mike Mandel at the University of Toronto I was very curious bit did not expect anything in particular.
Guess how surprised I was to learn hypnosis as a therapeutic technique offering endless ways to get connected with the conscious mind and finding out what really matters in ones life.
I am honored to have one of the busiest guys in podcasting in the show. Finally, here we go: the interview with JLD, about the simplicity of happiness.
John Lee Dumas is the host of EOFire, an award winning Podcast where he interviews today’s most successful Entrepreneurs 7-days a week. JLD has grown EOFire into a multi-million dollar a year business with over 1500 interviews and 1.5 million monthly listens. He’s the author of The Freedom Journal and The Mastery Journal, two of the most funded publishing campaigns of all time on Kickstarter. All the magic happens at EOFire.com!
It’s difficult to get what you want, when you don’t know what you want. Once you figured that out, you ask for it and sooner or later you will find a way to figure it out.
Happened to me, when I wanted to have John Lee Dumas, founder and host of Entrepreneurs on Fire, on my show. Once I asked for it, it turned out to be not such a problem.
Although most of us don’t thrive for being foolish I believe it to be very helpful. When you manage to keep the mind of a kind. One that keeps trying new things to learn from the feedback it receives you will on the one hand have a bunch of setbacks but on the other hand you discover ways you never new existed before.
Just before I left Zanzibar, Django, our dog left us. Although you might argue that he was just a dog, it showed how quick everything can be over and how important it is to value life as long as you have it.
This Podcast I recorded for you in the middle of nowhere in the Ethiopian Simien Mountains after climbing the highest peak of Ethiopia.
I had to experience in Ethiopia how bad it can turn out, when the local infrastructure is poorly developed and controlled by only a few. How lucky we are, that we have the possibilities of a working infrastructure that give us the freedom to live almost everywhere we want and still manage our life and often even our job.
As I am writing this I am sitting on the top of a mountain in northern Ethiopia (3300m). The town nearby is Lalibela and worldwide known for its wonderful churches that were carved out of the mountain. Some carved more than a thousand years ago.
Since I left Zanzibar about a month ago I have been traveling quite a bit. From Zanzibar I caught a plane to Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. We had the president of Zanzibar on board who went for some meeting to Addis. This gave us the wonderful opportunity to fly around and right over mount Kilimanjaro after having stopped at Kilimanjaro airport. From Addis I flew over Heathrow in London to Toronto, Canada. I had near been to Canada before and was positively surprised. I heard Canadians speak about Toronto, as if it wasn’t there most beautiful town and still I enjoyed it a lot.
Seemed to me as if it was a City in the US, just more green, more pedestrians and even friendlier. I stayed in Kensington market which gave me the opportunity to walk to University of Toronto early in the morning for class.
There I took a one week hypnosis training with Mister Hypnosis himself: Dr. Mike Mandel. To put it shortly, it was mind blowing and had the potential for changing life. Mine as well as those who will profit from these learnings in the future.
After that amazing week I flew to Berlin to meet my brother, some friends and take care of some stuff. Three days later I left for Cologne where I had another business training. I met my parents, grandma and a good friend and his family. After three days I left for Berlin again, where I met Alex Dahms of ‚One Million Good Thoughts’. We recorded a great interview for the next ‚One million Good Thoughts‘ edition this summer.
I also had to clean up my former office at ESCP Europe and had a little farewell party at the Campus, met some more friends I hadn’t seen in ages and went to business conference for digital nomads ‚DNX‘ organized by my podcast guest Markus Meurer. Great people, great audience, great day. It was definitely worth it.
Only eight hours after the ‚DNX‘ ended I was on my way to Frankfurt to catch a plane back to Addis Ababa, Ethiopia to meet Judy. We had planned to go on a three weeks vacation.
The winter season in Zanzibar was a dream that came true I would never want to miss. Still it was a whole lot of work. Judy doing her best in the Zanzibar health sector, working and teaching in three different hospitals and me building up the Lodge, mainly creating and installing processes.
When I go there I will do several things different, but for the first times I still had to learn a lot. Now I have a place at the Indian Ocean that keeps growing and expanding with a great team at work. And Judy will start her new position at the University Hospital Bern, Switzerland in July.
First it was time for some vacation for us. As I am planning some Ultra Mountain Races in Switzerland over the summer I wanted to be up in the mountains somewhere. Judy who has a personal history with Ethiopia wanted to visited the country for the first time in her life and since most of the country is above 2500m above sea level it was the place of choice. We started in Addis Ababa in a runners camp of Haile Gebrselassie whom you might know, then went on to Gonder and the Simmiens mountains for a week, where we went above 4000m for several times and I climbed the highest mountain in Ethiopia.
Now we are for some days at Lalibela to see the gorgeous historic monuments they crafted here decades ago. After we will visit Harare, the ancient muslim center of Ethiopia and then will go on to Zanzibar before we leave to Switzerland for the summer, where I will work on the online programs for happylife.coach.
I can tell you, as beautiful as traveling is, sometimes I need to rest a bit to be able to process all the learnings. I don’t know how it is in your life, but it might make sense to go for a change every once in while. And may it be only to become aware that you enjoy what you already have.
By now, it is a while ago that the story I am about to tell came to an end, a story about trust, thankfulness and the ability to let go.
I moved to Zanzibar for the winter 25th of October 2016. While still adapting to the island life and getting used to the work that needed to be done, to open our Lodge fully by December, we found somebody feeding on the garbage at one of the houses in the village.
It is quiet normal to see a lot of animals (well a lot of cats and every now and then a dog) searching for food. Amongst them are always a lot of kittens and puppies since pets don’t grow very old in Zanzibar and they reproduce quiet active.
There was a difference though. This time it was one single puppy and it didn’t run away in an instant. Although very afraid of humans he was curious enough to stay around and started playing with us in pure joy.
I posted a sentence the other day saying: „A friend is someone with a soul that resonates with your own.“
That was the sentence that came to my mind when I thought about that dog and how our relationship was going to evolve over the next 6 month. It happened to be, that we adopted that little skinny doggy and made him be our lodge masquot from that time on:
Back to November 2016:
I clear him from literally hundreds and hundreds of ticks, clean him all up and fead him as much as he likes.
Within hours he absolutely trusts us, changes his posture and his behavior towards people in general. Was he a scared and shy dog yesterday, he happens to have the sweetest character and turns out to be the Lodges happy soul.
Unfortunately he becomes very very sick during the first 3 week and becomes even skinnier during that time. I seriously fear that we might loose him right away and start to care of him 24/7. Now he is (other than planned) allowed to sleep inside the room and although that is very untypical in Zanzibar he is allowed to join us everywhere. From that day on he doesn’t miss a single tour to the mangroves, snorkeling or the island.
All of a sudden it is impossible to leave him anywhere alone. As soon as we try, he sneaks out and tries to us. I end up being accompanied on every step I take.
Although not planned before, I have a (dog)friend all of a sudden. He manages to survive his sickness and starts growing and growing.
He is coming with us on mainland trips, to Daressalam, lake Malawi, lake Tanganyika as well as on safaris. I guess, he might be one of the very few dogs in Tanzania to have ever been on a safari at all.
Now my biggest problem becomes the thought of leaving him on this own when I will leave Zanzibar for weeks and months. After all a travel by plane with a dog will not be the easiest and cheapest way to travel.
By March 2017 we have our current team for the Lodge complete, I give responsibility to the team, start to leave him with the team during the day and now he is allowed to leave the Lodge on his own, since he is not approaching other people anymore and always comes back on his own.
He starts sleeping next to the night-guard, is fed by our kitchen staff.
He remains the proudest dog in the village though. Always tail and head up. He is not afraid of anyone and still he somehow figures out to whom he could go and to whom not. I never see him near other people he doesn’t know. He goes to the beach with our guests and shows up on his own.
He has grown a lot and is around 7 month old. Everything seems to have worked out. I am confident, he will manage to be a happy dog when I leave. I am so happy that I will be able to come to Zanzibar and have Django waiting for me in the future.
By now it is end of April. The Lodge is up and running, the team is working smoothly, Django feels at home and does a lot on his own. In 7 day I will leave for a training in Canada and we are in the middle of the rainy season.
He still doesn’t like water and chills with Judy and me who doesn’t have to work to day all day long. It truly feels like he knows it is the last weekend together with both of us, as if he wants to say goodbye.
What I don’t know, is that is really is a goodbye. In the evening the sky clears up and it stops raining. Django runs out to chase the cat. I finish my dinner, turn around and there lies Django. Peaceful, without any sign of stress or pain, but dead.
We have no idea what happened and will never know…
So the last week in Zanzibar truly becomes a week of saying good bye. It feels like loosing a close friend and digging his grave in our little valley at Caveman Lodge is not how I pictured my last week here.
It becomes a week of facing my own fears, my own sadness and my own mistakes. Letting him go teaches me a lesson on life. Everything that comes, will go, it is just a matter of time. Don’t be attached and enjoy to the fullest what you want to enjoy, the moment you have it. When it leaves you, be thankful that you had it before. You will loose everything anyway, at the latest when it is time for you to go.
Enjoy now! Be thankful for what you have.
And a safe travel to Django…
I am recording and sending this podcast from Toronto and will give you a short overview about this weeks and the following episodes. Ask yourself what you really want to to in life, because… you already know the answer.
As you may have seen on the blog and heard on the podcast, I spent my last 6 month in Zanzibar. I was living a childhood dream and realizing a little business opportunity at the same time.
Having my own little spot on the Indian Ocean and being able to share it with others. Together with my business partner Omi, we built up the Caveman Lodge and opened for the first season in December 2016.
It is indeed much more work than expected. We had a great time though and it looks as if our guests are enjoying it as well. Have a look yourself and if you like, be our guest.
In 2012 I started blogging when I was in preparation for my solo Sahara tour and I wanted to talk about it. So man people asked me why I was going to Sahara, other wanted to now how I was about to do it and all of them wanted to know how I was doing. Therefor I included a blog in my domain gluecklichtrainer.com and wrote about my journey. Later in 2014 I decided to give my blog and own space: simplicity-of-happiness.com. Simultaneously I gave different guest appearances at different podcasts and discovered how much I love talking about my topics and I started an own podcast in 2015.
By today I am writing simultaneously in German and English on the blog and am recording a German and an English podcast (which I started in 2016).
While the German podcast is quite popular I missed out a little on the English show and took the decision for the new year to broadcast daily for 100 days. I think that is a good way of getting to know me and presenting my philosophy to the English speakers and am welcoming all of your input.
If you have an idea what to talk about, drop me a line.
If you like the show, please tell your friends.
If you don’t now it yet tune in at simplicity-of-happiness.com/podcast
I am in Africa now for more than two month and it is still amazing. The Lodge is ready for the season, we have guests, food is great and people are enjoying their time with us. I set up my work routine, am productive most of the time and go swimming with the dolphins or coral snorkeling every once in while.
Sun is shining every day and life is good.
Nevertheless sometimes it is hard to get up and focus. When every day is about as beautiful as the other it sometimes is very hard to get up and go the extra mile today. What it teaches me, is that it is not about how hard or easy or awesome your circumstances are, but only about what you make of it in your mind.
As I am writing this on Christmas Eve, I am sending you all my best wishes, sunshine and my most positive thoughts. Wherever you are, whatever you do… it is your own decision how you perceive the world.
You decide about your happiness. Keep that in mind and enjoy the season!
I am sitting a my Computer, checking mails, process bookings for the Lodge, record Podcasts and am planning my milestones for 2017. Then one question hits me:
Do I really want to keep writing stories on my blog? Yes!
Good, but what exactly? I wasn’t sure.
Since I shifted my focus on recording and broadcasting my German and my English podcast on a regular basis I missed out to write any articles. The main reason for that is that I am so much more spontaneous when talking. I am able to think about a topic, sit down to list some notes, start recording and the episodes evolves while I am talking. When a thought slightly shifts because I mention another dimension of the same problem it feels and it sounds natural to the listener.
When writing an article though, I always thought that I was expected to write „the perfect“ article. According to my own standards I often didn’t meet those and therefor created frustration in my mind.
While resonating about that, I thought about the time when it became so hard for me to write. I didn’t figure out yet what exactly it caused. I only know that there was a time when my expectation shifted and I tried to write not only an interesting story but a really good article, simultaneously in English and in German.
That was not the reason for me to start a blog though. I never meant to write news articles. I wanted to write stories from life and for life. I wanted to take you on the journey to the happiness through simplicity. A journey of life, where mistake are to happen, were experiences are to be made. I don’t aim to tell you what to do, I want to collect examples where it did work and where it did not, for me or for others.
What conclusion you are drawing from that will be up to you.
I will take my blog back to the roots of blogging. Writing a web-log about life and dreams and inspiration. Since I started to write, I created a life I would have only dreamed about 5 years ago. I am taking you on that journey and very much appreciate your thought and opinions.
Back to blogging! About the simplicity of happiness!
I so much like these guys and am really looking forward for my hypnosis training with them in November. They sum up a lot of my believes:
Imagine somebody could tell you where you´re actually from. A journey around the world and it all sums up to be you.
This is a commercial, but well, what would happen, if you´d find out all, the people you hate most are actually your ancestors?
End the end, we are one family. Amazing:
Hi there, I am back in Berlin for some days. I spent the last month in my Zanzibar home after having spent all winter in a skiing resort in the Swiss mountains.
Custom officers keep asking me about my crappy passport but I always tell them, that although it might not look new on the outside, it has so many stories to tell in the inside.
Just like I want my life to be.
Not shiny on the the outside but full of memories in the inside.
For those who want to learn more about how I managed to live the life I dreamt about, I created a webinar. It doesn’t tell you what to do, but helps to ask the tough questions and create the surrounding you need to truly thrive.
If you send me an email with the topic “Your Happy Life” you can participate for free.
June 8th 2016 6:30pm CET. (this time in English)
This TED talk really is worth being watched. It’s about a 75 year long happiness study which comes to one conclusion: The quality of relationships is what matters most in life.
Those who were the most satisfied with their relationships in their 50s were the healthiest in their 80s. Just watch yourself:
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