YOU, UNFILTERED
When your identity isn’t yours, your success won’t feel like yours either.
I used to think I was the roles I played.
The resume. The titles. The accomplishments.
In corporate life, that worked—for a while.
You get good at reading the room, being who they want, playing the part.
But eventually the part starts to wear thin.
Not because it’s wrong.
Because it’s not yours.
Identity, for many high-performers, becomes armor.
It looks like confidence.
It feels like control.
But underneath… there’s a question you’ve been avoiding:
Who would I be if I stopped performing?
In my case, it wasn’t until I walked away from the polished version of myself—
the one with the business cards, the plans, the appearances—
that I started to feel human again.
I didn’t find my identity in a strategy workshop.
I found it in the quiet.
In walking across a desert.
In standing alone on the deck of a sailboat.
In losing what I thought I needed… and still waking up alive.
That’s when I realized:
I was never confused.
I was just disconnected.
Because when your identity is shaped by expectation, you end up building a life that doesn’t feel like yours—even if it looks perfect on paper.
Simon Sinek talks about starting with Why.
But if you don’t know who is asking the question, your Why gets blurry fast.
Robert Dilts places Identity above behaviors and skills—because it’s what everything else rests on.
If your Who isn’t true, your How and What will always feel off.
And I see it all the time in coaching:
The leader who can lead teams but hasn’t led themselves.
The entrepreneur who can scale anything—but can’t feel anything.
The woman who’s achieved everything she set out to—and doesn’t recognize her own life.
This is the reckoning.
And it’s holy.
Because when you strip away the noise, the conditioning, the constant becoming…
what’s left is you.
Not the version you present.
The version you are.
Here’s the truth:
You are allowed to outgrow the identity that made you successful.
That doesn’t make you ungrateful.
It makes you ready.
So ask yourself:
- Who am I when I’m not proving anything?
- What part of me have I hidden to fit in?
- What version of me feels most alive?
Because the moment you stop performing, you start returning.
To your values.
To your truth.
To your actual life.
That’s what this step of the Alignment Journey is all about.
if your success feels real on paper but empty in your chest…
You’re not broken. You’re just out of alignment.
I work with leaders ready to lead from the inside out.
One honest conversation at a time.
Let’s talk. No pretending.
– Floh
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