NO GAP When who you are and how you lead finally match. Most people think leadership is about control.Clear direction. Strong presence. Consistent output. But real leadership—the kind that doesn’t burn you out or hollow you out—comes from something deeper. Congruency The invisible alignment between who you are on the insideand how you show up on the outside. When that gap is wide, you can feel it: And it’s exhausting. I know, because I’ve lived… Read More »CONGRUENCY
YOU, UNFILTERED When your identity isn’t yours, your success won’t feel like yours either. I used to think I was the roles I played.The resume. The titles. The accomplishments. In corporate life, that worked—for a while.You get good at reading the room, being who they want, playing the part. But eventually the part starts to wear thin.Not because it’s wrong.Because it’s not yours. Identity, for many high-performers, becomes armor.It looks like confidence.It feels like control.But… Read More »identity
It’s not OPTIONAL — IT’S THE FOUNDATION Why leaders who don’t know themselves can’t lead others clearly. For years, I thought I needed the next step.The better plan.The right strategy.More doing. More proving. But I wasn’t stuck because I lacked action.I was stuck because I had lost contact with meaning.I had forgotten why I was doing any of it in the first place. Not in my head—I could explain the vision.But in my body, in… Read More »CLARITY
Strategy without self is just performance And performance without alignment eventually breaks. I’ve coached entrepreneurs and women in leadership for years—founders, executives, visionaries.Brilliant, driven, deeply interesting people. But the most common sentence I hear isn’t about goals.It’s this: “Something feels off—and I can’t explain why.” Often, they have everything they thought they wanted.But not all of it feels true anymore. Maybe that’s you too. You’ve built something impressive.But somewhere along the way, you got further… Read More »The Alignment Journey
Control feels safe. But trust is what scales. And yet—control is just an illusion.Things are only “under control” as long as not too many defining parameters change. At best, control is a temporary reduction of risk. Let’s be honest If you’ve built something with your bare hands—a business, a team, a movement—it’s hard to let go. My own story of control vs. trust I’ve been there myself. After I built my lodge in Tanzania, things… Read More »You Can’t Lead People You Don’t Trust
You’ve worked hard to be where you are. You didn’t get here by winging it.You got here by doing things well—really well.You hold yourself to high standards. You’re precise. You care. You deliver. And now?Those same strengths might be holding you back. when high standards become self-sabotage Here’s what most leaders don’t realize: Perfectionism doesn’t just waste time.It kills trust, momentum, and innovation. You want excellence. But you’re accidentally modeling fear of failure. especially dangerous… Read More »the perfectionism trap in leadership
your ‘strengths’ are holding you back You didn’t get here by accident. You’ve worked hard. Delivered results. Earned your title.But the habits that made you successful—might now be holding you back. Especially if you’re a woman in leadership or a founder who built your business from scratch, this can feel like a cruel twist. You were promoted because you were reliable, fast, detail-focused, and always had the answers.You built your business by being the one… Read More »why your biggest strengths become your new blind spots
I received a message from my coach, Rich Litvin, the other day, and it really resonated with me. I believe this is an important leadership insight: often, when people get defensive and make excuses, it stems from an underlying insecurity. How do you handle this when it happens in your team? And how do you deal with it when you catch yourself doing the same? My biggest takeaway from this message is that it’s okay… Read More »clean up your mess
Today, I want to write about a topic that many of us tend to shy away from: failure. Yep, you heard me right! We’re diving headfirst into the world of setbacks, mishaps, and moments when things don’t quite go as planned. I could write an entire book about it, and yet those were the moments I learned the most. To people striving for success, failure often seems to be an obstacle, a setback to be… Read More »embracing failure – the key to success
I’ve been where you are.
Full of ambition, clarity at times—yet stuck. Unsure where to turn.
I know what it feels like to need support but not know how to ask for it.
That’s why I offer one coaching session per week for free.
Because helping is what drives me.
I genuinely enjoy holding space for others to shift. It’s not just about giving—it’s about the clarity, courage, and transformation that can happen in a single powerful conversation.
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Some of the most driven, talented people don’t have the financial means—yet. This is my way of backing those who are ready to move.
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I’ve had the vision, but not the support. This is how I give back—by offering what I once needed.
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