Essays about the Simplicity Of Happiness and living the life you love!
NO GAP When who you are and how you lead finally match. Most people think leadership is about control.Clear direction. Strong presence. Consistent output. But real leadership—the kind that doesn’t burn you out or hollow you out—comes from something deeper. Congruency The invisible alignment between who you are on the insideand how you show up on the outside. When that gap is wide, you can feel it: And it’s exhausting. I know, because I’ve lived… Read More »CONGRUENCY
TRUTH THAT’S HEARD Your voice isn’t missing. It’s just buried under noise. There’s a moment I see in nearly every client I work with.They’ve done the work. Found their clarity. Reconnected with purpose.And yet… “Why does it still feel like people don’t get me?” Because clarity alone isn’t enough.If it stays locked inside, it doesn’t serve. That’s where expression comes in. This part of the journey is where your truth becomes transmission.Where what you feel… Read More »EXPRESSION
YOU, UNFILTERED When your identity isn’t yours, your success won’t feel like yours either. I used to think I was the roles I played.The resume. The titles. The accomplishments. In corporate life, that worked—for a while.You get good at reading the room, being who they want, playing the part. But eventually the part starts to wear thin.Not because it’s wrong.Because it’s not yours. Identity, for many high-performers, becomes armor.It looks like confidence.It feels like control.But… Read More »identity
It’s not OPTIONAL — IT’S THE FOUNDATION Why leaders who don’t know themselves can’t lead others clearly. For years, I thought I needed the next step.The better plan.The right strategy.More doing. More proving. But I wasn’t stuck because I lacked action.I was stuck because I had lost contact with meaning.I had forgotten why I was doing any of it in the first place. Not in my head—I could explain the vision.But in my body, in… Read More »CLARITY
Strategy without self is just performance And performance without alignment eventually breaks. I’ve coached entrepreneurs and women in leadership for years—founders, executives, visionaries.Brilliant, driven, deeply interesting people. But the most common sentence I hear isn’t about goals.It’s this: “Something feels off—and I can’t explain why.” Often, they have everything they thought they wanted.But not all of it feels true anymore. Maybe that’s you too. You’ve built something impressive.But somewhere along the way, you got further… Read More »The Alignment Journey
Most coaching gives you advice.Mine helps you hear yourself. The truth is: You don’t need more strategies. You don’t need someone to tell you what to do. You need the right space to reconnect with your own clarity—the space to say what’s true for you, not just what sounds good. That’s what I offer. I don’t show up with concepts or ready-made answers. I show up with presence. I listen—fully. I meet you exactly where… Read More »Why This Work Feels Different
you don’t need balance, You need alignment. For years, I chased balance.Work on one side. Life on the other.As if they were two separate worlds.As if the trick was to juggle them better. So I tried:More structure. More discipline.Time-blocked mornings. Guilt-free evenings.Productivity hacks. Boundaries. Goals. But it never felt right.Because the truth is—I didn’t want balance. I wanted peace.I wanted my days to make sense.I wanted them to feel like mine. Here’s what I’ve learned: Balance… Read More »the myth of work-life balance
Control feels safe. But trust is what scales. And yet—control is just an illusion.Things are only “under control” as long as not too many defining parameters change. At best, control is a temporary reduction of risk. Let’s be honest If you’ve built something with your bare hands—a business, a team, a movement—it’s hard to let go. My own story of control vs. trust I’ve been there myself. After I built my lodge in Tanzania, things… Read More »You Can’t Lead People You Don’t Trust
You’ve worked hard to be where you are. You didn’t get here by winging it.You got here by doing things well—really well.You hold yourself to high standards. You’re precise. You care. You deliver. And now?Those same strengths might be holding you back. when high standards become self-sabotage Here’s what most leaders don’t realize: Perfectionism doesn’t just waste time.It kills trust, momentum, and innovation. You want excellence. But you’re accidentally modeling fear of failure. especially dangerous… Read More »the perfectionism trap in leadership
your ‘strengths’ are holding you back You didn’t get here by accident. You’ve worked hard. Delivered results. Earned your title.But the habits that made you successful—might now be holding you back. Especially if you’re a woman in leadership or a founder who built your business from scratch, this can feel like a cruel twist. You were promoted because you were reliable, fast, detail-focused, and always had the answers.You built your business by being the one… Read More »why your biggest strengths become your new blind spots
I received a message from my coach, Rich Litvin, the other day, and it really resonated with me. I believe this is an important leadership insight: often, when people get defensive and make excuses, it stems from an underlying insecurity. How do you handle this when it happens in your team? And how do you deal with it when you catch yourself doing the same? My biggest takeaway from this message is that it’s okay… Read More »clean up your mess
challenging times Are you satisfied with how things are currently running? These times are challenging, and many of us feel uncertain or even frightened. In recent conversations, it’s clear that fear of change is prevalent. However, one crucial lesson I’ve learned over the years is that change is constant. Even when it feels like things are staying the same, both we and the world around us are continually evolving. Every moment brings change – people… Read More »Change in Difficult Times
I’ve crossed paths with many coaches like myself, deeply passionate about our work for the profound impact it has on our clients. There’s an undeniable joy in unraveling their struggles and leaving them in a better state than we found them. Witnessing that transformation, seeing the light in their eyes, that’s our true reward. We’re in the people pleasing business. recognition Yet, this noble pursuit often veers into treacherous territory – the search for approval.… Read More »the coaching approval paradox
So often, we anticipate that once we achieve, gain, or acquire something, or when we conquer or win someone, our lives will improve. For many successful individuals, this becomes a driving force to surmount obstacles. Yet, what we frequently overlook is that our lives inevitably become full. We are bound by the confines of a 24-hour day, impervious to any hack. Nevertheless, our innate desire for growth persists. reassess whether it serves a purpose It… Read More »the power of letting go
I had a conversation the other day about distraction. I personally went off most social media in the last month. Since I have been traveling for most of my time for the last 10 years, I love to stay in contact and read about my friends’ updates as well as posting my own. Two things changed over the last years. Somehow my news feeds consist mostly of reposts written by people I don’t know, suggested… Read More »distraction of self worth
Today, I want to write about a topic that many of us tend to shy away from: failure. Yep, you heard me right! We’re diving headfirst into the world of setbacks, mishaps, and moments when things don’t quite go as planned. I could write an entire book about it, and yet those were the moments I learned the most. To people striving for success, failure often seems to be an obstacle, a setback to be… Read More »embracing failure – the key to success
Some people come into your life for a season, some for a reason, and some for a lifetime, but eventually, they all leave. The same goes for everything else that we let into our lives. Once upon a time, there was a life without social media for me. And guess what? I loved it for quite a while. Since I am traveling most of the time, I won’t see most of the people I meet… Read More »why i am leaving social media
A Personal Journey of Growth and Transformation Join me on a journey as I share my values, beliefs, and the person I have become over the past decade. I’ll explore the essence of authentic relationships and the power of unconditional love. It’s a story of self-discovery, vulnerability, and the pursuit of genuine connections. Embracing Authenticity: Discovering the Essence of Genuine Connections As a coach, I’ve spent considerable time working with individuals on leadership development. Whether… Read More »A Path to Authentic Relationships
Life is a wild ride. As if to prove this saying, which is the shows motto right, I was sitting on a boat in the Mediterranean Sea on a stormy day when we recorded this conversation about life.
In mid 2021 I had this conversation with Paul about failures and how it is up to us, to change the meaning of a failure to turn it into positive learning experience. On this episode of My Perfect Failure (Failures Are Practice) If you feel like you are not quite living the life that inspires you to get out of bed in the morning. You’re not sure how to take big actions or decision to… Read More »my perfect failure
I’ve been where you are.
Full of ambition, clarity at times—yet stuck. Unsure where to turn.
I know what it feels like to need support but not know how to ask for it.
That’s why I offer one coaching session per week for free.
Because helping is what drives me.
I genuinely enjoy holding space for others to shift. It’s not just about giving—it’s about the clarity, courage, and transformation that can happen in a single powerful conversation.
Because real impact starts with a chance.
Some of the most driven, talented people don’t have the financial means—yet. This is my way of backing those who are ready to move.
Because I’ve been there.
I’ve had the vision, but not the support. This is how I give back—by offering what I once needed.
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