Time changes! All the time!
As one second and one moment always connects to the next one, life feels like a constant flow.
On the one hand it actually is and on the other hand all we have is NOW. Decisions are always taken now. Although you can take the experiences from the past into account it remains the moment of now that you take your decision.
It is the combination of your past that will lead to a decision now, that can shape your future.
A coach of mine once told me that our unconscious mind is always protecting us and that decisions we take are always in our best intentions. No body really wants to hurt itself, at least not as long as there some more valuable secondary gain that it will take out of that action.
If you realize that, you will come to the conclusion that whenever you took a clear and congruent decision, it was the right decision. It was as good of a decision as it could possibly be in the moment you took it.
Has it ever proofed to be the wrong decision afterwards because you received feedback that showed you information, you didn’t have before?
Well, it remains the right decision for that very moment you took it. There was something that you didn’t know yet and which you needed to find out to become more aware.
While your heart/soul thrives for something, your mind will create the decision and circumstance for your body to experience it. Then your body will give a feedback of gained knowledge back to your heart and you can thrive for something else.
Let the grieve (about wrong decisions) go and focus on what you are going to do with the new knowledge for the rest of your life.
I myself planned this year to be different. I had plans and goals and dreams and wishes. Then life happened. Other people around me took decisions that I had not foreseen and as everything in life is connected one way or another it made realizing some of my goals impossible.
It was up to me to take this knew knowledge into account. Some blogposts back I told you that I was going to run across the alps by foot and that I wanted to document the journey of this summer. Then I went to Zanzibar and suddenly had to adjust all of my plans. A lot went wrong for me and I reprioritized, had to rearrange some things and had to focus on some other projects. These made running out in the mountains for some weeks not possible…
And… I took the new gained freedom to turn a dream of mine into reality. I always wanted to go sailing. Not around one bay for an hour or so, but for distant places and far away lonely beaches with no schedule to come back.
I needed my own boat and now I have one. I went for the smallest wooden boat that I could find and which is still safe enough to go for larger distances and now I am going to write and publish about this journey instead.
More about my folkboat in another post.
Fear seems to be one of the most limiting factors in life. As true love can be the most motivating one and is able to move mountains or tear them down fear can build them up.
The strange things about fear though is, that fear happens only in your head and mostly deals with the future. Can you even remember the last time that you were frightened here and now?
This happens only in situations that are really dangerous for you and it makes sense to run away or fight.
It is activating your fight or flight response. As a constant process in your head and in your body it may be even quite harmful.
As the thing that you are worrying about is in the future it can help to let the fearful idea go and focus on a positive outcome instead. At least a way to manage a way to take. responsibility for your action and take the decisions that serve you best.
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Last time I promised you a feedback about my time in Zanzibar and well… here we go. This has been a disturbing time for in May and I had my struggles to focus on the positive side of things.
Yet, what does it do any good to not not see things positive. It is as it is and the only thing truly matters, is the question of who to be in relation to that.
I strongly believe that each one has the right to be different. I want that right to be based on honesty and understanding. I think it is helpful to speak up against it publicly. No matter if family, a group of friends, a business or a whole society is involved.
Don’t give room for betrayel and grief and fight for honesty, transparency, understanding and loving care!
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Now that I kept talking about Patreon in the last blogposts, podcasts and elsewhere, I think that I should at least give you an overview about what Patreon is all about. The short version and official description on their platform is this:
Patreon is a service that allows to collect ongoing financial contribution for projects.
My longer version is this:
Patreon is a social media platform very similar to Facebook. You can create you own profile and post content: texts, links, audio and video. Just like facebook, the content can be uploaded to Patreon itself or linked to another source.
Other members at Patreon can access your timeline and subscribe to it (just as liking a page on facebook).
Here comes the huge difference: Subscribers to a certain page, can financially contribute. There can be different contribution levels with different benefits attached to it. The creator on the other hand, can decide who is allowed to access which content. Free for all, for all Patreons or for a certain contribution (pledge) level only. The contribution will be due each time that the Creator decides to upload a paid content. Each subscriber/contributer can decide how often per month he wants to pledge maximum.
Furthermore Patreon has a community platform, which is comparable to writing on somebodies timeline on facebook. Once again this may be limited for contributing Patrons only.
I also use Patreon and the different contribution levels to grant different access to my website at Happylife.Coach.
And as an important side affect, I am using Patreon to collect money for our education project in Zanzibar. 50% of all my pledges will go to K-I-D-Z.org and finance education for undepriviledged children.
Support me & KIDZ on Patreon, patreon.com/flohjoe
Having told you in previous posts that:
I realized once again that I love most to inspire people.
I also want to help improve peoples life.
I love to travel, be outside and be physical active.
I love to create lasting memories.
I want to be on an adventure most of the time.
I love motivating people to join me on a journey.
I love to share my stories.
I am ok with sitting my butt down and record my ideas into a podcast, write it down for a blog post or record a video for a publication. I am ok, improving my website, cutting the podcast and videos. I am fine with sitting down with people on very specific times to help them overcome their own obstacles.
I absolutely hate to talk people into something. I don’t enjoy building a marketing funnel. I don’t like selling to people who have no need for buying.
I figured, that although I love coaching and the adventure seminars, I don’t want to be a traditional Coach, I don’t want to have my office downtown. I don’t want to schedule back to back coaching where people stop by for an hour.
No! I want to be a part of your life. I want to leave a lasting impression. And I want to empower people over a period of time to help them change life for the better.
And while doing that I want to keep growing mentally. That means to learn new stuff, discover areas of the world I haven’t seen before. Meet new people, learn from other cultures and get inspired by the beauty of this world.
While doing that, I want to share it with as many people as possible.
Therefor I am slightly shifting my focus.
I will keep running the “simplicity of happiness” blog & podcast. All content will remain for free and I will focus mainly on the English content, publishing blogpost in English only.
I am asking you and all my listeners though, to invite me on a cup of coffee every now and then through the Patreon website.
I will also keep the website and the services at Happylife.Coach. I will just move to more online content with short coaching interventions and webinars. The possibility for one on one coaching will be limited to only a very few and of course my main focus will remain on the adventure seminars, that will need to fill up to a critical limit 6 month ahead of time to be confirmed. All access, to coaching videos, webinars and my one on one coachings will be granted through Patreon https://patreon.com/flohjoe. That means that other than the simplicity of happiness content, a Patreon membership is required to access the Happylife.Coach content (starting at 2$…)
As you can see, the centerpiece of my work will be accessible through Patreon. My main work will consist of producing and uploading up to 4 inspirational videos per month, where I am taking you on my journey and projects offering you insides, thoughts and learnings as well as special prices for the events, access to single coachings and special at the Caveman Lodge in Zanzibar.
Some of that content will later be available on Youtube as well, but you will only get early access or access to the exclusive content when you are a member at Patreon.
So I am asking to join me on my journey and get access to all my work with simply joining me here.
Just in case you are wondering, you will find me on most social networks under the nickname: flohjoe
It is now about one year that I am not actively working for ESCP Europe anymore. Although that I am already living my life and worklife relatively self-determined for some years now, I can tell you that it is a huge difference when nobody expects anything from you anymore.
Furthermore and quite important to me, did my son and his mother move so far away that I have absolutely no chance on seeing him on a regular basis anymore. In fact I have seen him only ones in the last 30 month.
Despite this being very frustrating, it leaves me being responsible for nobody at the moment.
Since I have reduced my financial obligation to almost zero in the last years… not being dependent on anyone and not being responsible for anyone is quite an unusual situation to me.
Apart from true freedom, this can also be very scary. I can or even have to ask myself for every single action I do: what is purpose behind it and why are you about to do it?
The only one who can put a reason behind it is myself. There is absolutely no one left to blame in on. Every single step is purely because I take an active decision for it.
This has, if you look at it closely, always been the case… (just like in your life) and still did I so often try to find an excuse, why something is somehow just not my choice and others make me do this or that.
Does that idea sound familiar to you? Well, realizing that whatever situation you are in, it were your own previous choices that brought you there is the first place.
Realizing that is the first step to personal freedom.
The scary thing though, is that freedom doesn’t always feels like fun. It sometimes is hard work. Being responsible for your own thoughts and actions will give you no other choice than put you actions where your mouth is.
You are the only one in charge on where life will take you. You are the only one to put in the work that will take you to where you want to be?
But guess what?
You will have to go through some ups and downs. You might ask yourself not only what you’d enjoy most… while making your way towards your goal, but also what you’d be willing to suffer.
Be honest with yourself. Are there things, that you are just not going to do? Maybe you go down a different road instead?
So, where did this lead me, you might ask?
I realized that I love to inspire people. I want to help improve peoples life. I also love to travel, be outside and be physical active. I love to create lasting memories. I want to be on an adventure. I love motivating people to join me on a journey. I love to share my stories.
I am ok with sitting my butt down and record my ideas for a podcast, write it down for a blog post, record a video for a publication.
I am ok, improving my website, cutting the podcast and videos. I am fine with sitting down with people on very specific times to help them overcome their own obstacles.
I absolutely hate to talk people into something. I don’t enjoy building a marketing funnel. I don’t want to create an event where I then have to sell it to people to join.
Let’s take the Caveman Lodge for example. I don’t want to find people whom I need to talk into a vacation in Zanzibar and then into staying at my Lodge. No I want to do it the other way around. Be found be people who are looking for a vacation anyway. Put my offering out and help them to have a remarkable time while they are there.
It turned out that I want to do something quite similar with Happylife.Coach.
I’ll tell you what that is in my next posting.
This is why we founded a children education project: KIDZ.
Although I believe one should not put too much meaning in the end of the year I am still using the date for a little review of the old and an outlook into the new year. Especially with Christmas season, plenty of time, new year and my birthday all within two weeks there are quiet a few reasons for a review.
End of December I came back from 4 weeks in Zanzibar and had family and friends time in the Swiss mountains. I love the difference between the winter and the tropical island and gives me the opportunity to get the best out both world.
One thing lacking in Zanzibar is education though. I am not talking about an European school or value system at all. I mean having enough basic knowledge to be able to form an own opinion. In contrast to that the local eduction focuses on stupid repetition only.
Therefor the only way to receive an ‚important‘ and/or ‚powerful‘ position later in life is through intransparency, misinformation or just force.
Most people in Zanzibar fit into one of the following roles, the dictating authoritative or the repressed person. Sometimes people are both depending on the situation. Both roles lead to a stagnation in society, which nobody enjoys. Almost everybody you ask, is unhappy about the lack of possibilities, the amount of wages being paid, the ongoing corruption, the inability of the officials and so on.
It is sad that although nobody likes the status quo, nobody is able or willing to change for the better. I belief that one major reason for that is education, which be it at home or at school consists mainly of two things: shut up and repeat.
Young people learn to sneak around, not getting caught and repeating what is expected without understanding why. Society is a mirror of that.
Now that I somehow slipped into being a Hotel owner in the most southern village in Zanzibar I asked myself what to do about it. I thought that I have the chance to either complain as well or do something about it and I chose the latter.
Back in Switzerland we founded the association „KIDZ individual development for Zanzibar“ K-I-D-Z.org and we are collecting donations to send as many kids from Kizimkazi as possible to a private non for profit school. At the moment private school seems to be the only form of education that makes a difference, at least until enough people become aware how important a decent education is and the public school system will start to improve.
If you want to support that idea, you can either head over to K-I-D-Z.org directly or support me on Patreon patreon.com/flohjoe where you will also support the children in Zanzibar as well as exclusive content from me.
Should I upload own videos on Youtube? What would be the difference to my Podcast channel and what happens if no one watches them?
These have been questions that went through my head by the end of the old year. Three things influenced me most to go for a YES.
1. Sometimes I was not able to transport the magical impressions that I had on my trips, journeys and coaching seminars in writing or photos. I wanted to take you with me.
2. I started watching some Youtube Channels about boat journeys and am amazed to see people and projects develop. The excitement is so much more realistic when you follow real life people and projects evolve.
3. In my Podcast conversation with John Lee Dumas of EO Fire he left with the advice that if you touch only one person it was worth it.
So I decided to give it a try and started to make the best out of what I already had, put together a shaky video of the RIDING experience. At the same time I started recording more video material, cut a much better version for the SAHARA experience, bought a new camera and have plenty of material for the following episodes.
I don’t think any special publishing tool better than any other or even the best, the just show life from a different perspective. However you prefer it you can now follow my stories and ideas here in writing or as:
I am on my way back to Zanzibar as I write this.
I left the island May 5th to travel to Toronto, Canada where I met Chris Thompson and Mike Mandel of MikeMandelHypsnosis.
On the one hand I was tired of the island, tired of the slow processes, tired of the officials who are just not willing to help for any process.
Often it seemed to me, as if people I worked with are only interested in their own corruption money and once you gave it to them forget about it immediately so you will have to start all over again.
As soon as you plan to make any fast progress it will be more than likely that you reach a point of frustration sooner or later.
On the other hand, I was so exited to go to Canada and was even more impressed to reach Canada, where it seemed to me, as if everybody was just friendly and helpful.
If there was kind of problem to appear, somebody came to immediate help. I even arrived at the airport with a number twist in my visa application. Somebody called the embassy and sorted it out.Even better was my one week training with Mike Mandel, where I had hoped to learn some insights and gadgets about Hypnosis. I thought that I might catch up some party gags that I could use to make people more curious about their unconscious mind.What I did not expect was such a profound and deep training into hypnosis as a coaching tool. We did not only learn how to hypnotize, but also how to utilize our learnings to help people improve their own life. While learning our own consciousness and unconscious mind improved dramatically.
After Canada I stayed in Germany for two weeks and then went on vacation in Ethiopia for three week where I had enough time to deepen the learnings of the one week in Canada.
Now I am on the way back to Zanzibar and am curious to see the Caveman Lodge again. It seems as if our team has done a great job and is well prepared for the Zanzibar summer. Some of the official documents that where missing when I left are still not processed, but I guess that is part of the deal when you get in exchange the life on a tropical island.Although I have experienced and seen so much, on Zanzibar almost nothing has changed while I was gone. When nothing is changing, or at least not with any recognizable speed, it just makes no sense to hurry up with whatever you are doing.So maybe, I am asking myself, there is nothing such as a universal time for all. Maybe time is only what we experience and everybody has its own.
Wherever you are, wherever you go. Take your time. What you make of now, is what you make of life.
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