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the struggle of having everything you want

does more mean happier?

There used to be a time when I had more stuff than I could possibly use. That didn’t happen accidentally but served two needs of mine (at least I thought so). On the one hand I wished to own things that gave me joy and on the other hand I wanted to look successful to others. I thought: once I proofed to the world (and myself) that I had success I deserve to do the crazy things I dreamed about.
Fact was, it didn’t make me happy. I became more and more dependent on working for the things I owned and I had no time to actually use them. Secretly I was longing for freedom and was wondering: when you have all the stuff you want, but are not happy, will more of what didn’t make you happy in the first place help after all?

live now or later

One day it hit me. I was living a life I did not like in order to gain the permission to live the life I love later. I realized that the only one who set up these boundaries was myself. So I focused on creating a life I love, but that came with a price tag as well. I did not make as much money as I made before and I was constantly in the struggle of having to take decisions. By eliminating the external expectations, my decisions were not running on autopilot anymore. I needed to make a case for myself and prioritize everything I do. If you are a business owner or work in a leadership role you might know what I am talking about. I did not expect that before, but it can actually become a source of stress.Eventually though, I basically created the life I love and am now living it most of the time (I guess I am still not perfect ;-).

enjoy the moment

What happened next: I find it hard to enjoy the beauty around me when I have it every day. Often I postpone nice things to tomorrow, to get “some work done” today. Unfortunately tomorrow is always tomorrow. Therefor I often don’t enjoy where I am now and what I am doing right now. Also consider the fact that you can never have everything at once. Something is always missing. Once our universe left singularity and went to duality, matter became one thing because it is not something else. In case that is too abstract; the simple version is: everything has its opposite. You can also not be at more than one location at the same time. Neither can you have two thoughts or focus on more than one thing at once. One part is always missing. How do you manage to enjoy the moment?

comfort is what you don’t have

And… things are so much nicer when they are unexpected. At least when you don‘t have them all the time. I remember a time when I lived in Africa and had only cold showers. While traveling somewhere in the bush in a remote location I had a shower and couldn‘t believe it to be a hot one. Comfort is only comfort as long as you don‘t have it on a daily basis otherwise you‘ll take it for granted. What do we do with that? Would you be willing to let go of a comfort item, just to enjoy it even more when you occasionally have access to it?

what keeps you motivated?

A question I keep asking myself though, is what keeps you (me) motivated in doing the things that are necessary, when you already have what you want.Personally I am often driven by the anticipation of the outcome. I like to work on a project because I expect something specific (or life in general) to be better afterwards. This drives me into new projects all of the time. An expectation for the better. And then, I am already seeking the next adventure.
What happens though, when you are satisfied, when you are happy with what you have? Is being satisfied and truly happy the opposition to motivation? A source of freedom for me became letting go of the need to have something. Although still desirable, it is only an option among others. I can go for it, but I don’t have to.

interaction & creation of flow

What I really enjoy is being in the flow. When I create something I forget time and everything around me. Although I love to think, being physically active causes real joy to me. That is probably one reason why I love sports and the outdoors so much.
Interacting and helping people is causing a similar spike for me. When I listen to people and react to their thoughts and needs it also gets gets me out of my own thinking. It is creative, it is problem solving and it makes a difference. When I ran my own little hotel at a beach in Zanzibar, I liked to gather all the guests at one big dinner table in the evening and bring all these different and interesting people together. I enjoyed that! Every evening!

what will remain?

Maybe the only thing that will remain when we are gone, are the memories we created in others. Maybe life is not about what we accumulated but whom we connected to and where we made a difference. I started something similar to my Zanzibar dinner tables by building my first mastermind community about 1 1/2 years ago. Now I brought it a step further by combining all clients and mastermind groups in one Simplicity Of Happiness Community. It is a network of interesting people who have their private work spaces within, but can also connect throughout the entire community. I am also offering help and support as well as coaching advice to those who like.It is probably like a facebook group without facebook or my Zanzibar dinner table without the beach. Yet you can take it with you in your pocket. It runs on a special App that is dedicated to the Simplicity Of Happiness family & friends and you are invited to join as well.
Contact me if you want to receive the invitation link to the App.

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logbook #20210917

I write these updates from a very personal point of view. They are neither meant to brag nor to convince anyone of anything. Since my work ethic is: NO bullshit, NO secrets and keep it REAL, I ask you to hold nothing back.

These updates are my way of holding nothing back, to show who I am and what I think. Even before we meet for the first time. You choose: You like me, or you don‘t.

If you do… let us have a chat.

As I write this update I am sitting on a sunny terrace in Elba and am reflecting on the past summer.

In May, I knew I had to get out of the Swiss mountains and see the world. About 10 years ago I was living and working in Berlin and chilling a day in a park was the best. For the last year I was living with one of the greatest views you can imagine and still I was longing to get out.

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INpowered podcast

A perfect example, of how you can sometimes plan and still things turn out different.
I had the opportunity to be interviewed by Jayne of the INpowered podcast and although I was a a beautiful setting, I had to change last minute because a heavy wind was blowing.
I ended up recording this episode in my car, parked in the sun and the heat rising in the and my dog being annoyed being annoyed by all of that.

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Helmstedter Sonntag

Recently I was interviewed by the Helmstedter Sonntag, a regional newspaper in Germany.
We talked about wasting stuff, desert, change and focus.
The whole interview is in German and if you know some German you might enjoy the conversation.

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logbook #20210616

I write these updates from a very personal point of view. They are neither meant to brag nor to convince anyone of anything. Since my work ethic is: NO bullshit, NO secrets and keep it REAL, I ask you to hold nothing back.

These updates are my way of holding nothing back, to show who I am and what I think. Even before we meet for the first time. You choose: You like me, or you don‘t.

If you do… let us have a chat.

I don’t believe it.
How come time is running so fast.

More than a whole year, that basically took for ever lies behind us and now I wonder where it went.

I have posted this update in one of my recent newsletters and I mentioned the topic before. Somehow this has been a crazy year. Most of my plans did not work out this year. I had to take a couple of improvised turns and probably it has been quite similar for you. At a certain point I stopped making plans for anything lying further in the future than 10-14 days. I thought that it might come different anyways.

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becoming a sailor

becoming a sailor by becoming a minimalist

I wanted to buy a boat for years. When I was a young boy, I remember to not be able to pass any harbor when we were on family vacation without the need to look at all the sailing boats. Somehow I was never interested in motorboats. I didn’t recognize it at that time, but maybe I was less interested in crossing an ocean than I was in lifestyle, beauty and freedom. That might be one reason why I did not put everything into becoming a sailor at that time.

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life design podcast

I am so fortunate to meet interesting people all around the planet. Partly that is due to my travels, partly to living at beautiful tourist destinations. Last but not least I can invite people I look up to, to my Podcast and can have a meaningful conversation.

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happiness

what scares you?

I am scared to be scared.I hate this feeling of uncertainty and fear.It is not my comfort zone and things don‘t happen with ease. When I am in my comfort zone and things go well for me I feel good and happy and maybe proud of what I am doing. All of that can disappear in an instant when I am scared of something.

For a reason I did not understand for a long time I am always craving the next adventure. Putting me in scary situations over and over again:

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logbook #20200708

I write these updates from a very personal point of view. They are neither meant to brag nor to convince anyone of anything. Since my work ethic is: NO bullshit, NO secret and, keep it REAL, I ask you to hold nothing back.

These updates are my way of holding nothing back, to show who I am and what I think. Even before we meet for the first time. You choose: You like me, or you don‘t.

If you do… let us have a chat.

Hurray, the travel restrictions have been lifted a bit. Worldwide and especially Africa travel for me is still a mess, BUT let‘s stay positive: the Schengen area re-opened its borders. For me, that meant going to Italy, Elba in special. It is only now, that I find the time to write about it. It turns out that writing is a bit difficult while driving or doing something else 😉

Well, I‘ll keep this short:

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logbook #20200614

When I started this logbook segment, I thought I will let you know about my ongoing adventures and travels.

I planned to work on my boat early this year and be out and sailing quite a bit. Finally around Corsica. I thought with a good reefing system and my new autopilot I’ll be good for some exiting solo sails.