happy#203 – what scares you most

simplicity of happiness · happy#203 – what scares you most

What scares you most may be, what you secretly desire.I am convinced that every one knows the feeling of fear.

  • fear of being hurt
  • fear of failure
  • fear of not being liked
  • fear of being left alone
  • fear of being unimportant
  • fear of being forgotten

There are a ton of different reasons to be scared. Only very few deal with physical harm though. While it makes sense to fear pain and stay alert, a lot of other fears mean being scared of the unknown and want to keep us in a safe place.
Inside your comfort zone is where you feel the safest, you know the rules, you know how to behave and how to deal with situations that may occur.
As soon as you leave your comfort zone, your body and mind will tell you be cautions of getting hurt.
While most things that could possibly be done or happen to you don‘t scare you because they are either not obvious or very unlikely, it is interesting to give those a closer look, that do scare you.
Maybe because you secretly desire them.

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happy#180 – learning from horses

simplicity of happiness · happy#180 – learning from horses

I am slowly catching up with the last weeks, where I have been, apart from Mt Meru & Kilimanjaro, one week riding in beautiful Provence. It was the hottest week on records in Southern France. Therefor we chose a tour we had never done before as a group. It took us high up the mountains and as far away from any tarmac road as possible in France.
It was also the first time for me, to be able to focus completely on the riding and I finally got a glimpse why horses are such good life coaches.
It is all about communication and being consistent. You can‘t talk horses into something… Either you are straight about it or not. What a good learning experience for life, isn‘t it?

Take care my friend, Floh


happy#179 – death on kilimanjaro

simplicity of happiness · happy#179 – death on kilimanjaro

Have you ever been on Kilimanjaro? Let me invite you on a journey. 
As we were climbing the mountain in June it showed us all its magic. Highest single standing mountain on Earth, highest mountain in Africa, one of the largest volcanos on Earth, all climate zone, equator, East Africa… to name a few of the aspects.

For us who climbed it, it brought us pain, laughter, exhaustion, happiness, success. We were overwhelmed and in tears when reaching the summit.

On the other hand it showed us how fragile life is and that we better spend it wisely.

Take care my friend, Floh


happy#178 – safari

simplicity of happiness · happy#178 – safari

I have been on an amazing trip to Africa, Mount Meru, national parks, wildlife, Kilimanjaro with tons of emotions and a journey into our past.
Once again it amazed me to see beautiful nature in national parks even larger than some countries.

To see the complexity and harmony of nature which is left alone by the humans is a gift and reminds me on how important it is for us humans to step back and give nature its place.

At least we should see ourself as a part of something bigger again an re-integrate. One sentence that sums it all up is:

Not the deer is crossing the road, it is the road crossing the forest!

Take care my friend, Floh


happy#177 – how coaching changes everything

simplicity of happiness · happy#177 – how coaching changes everything

Coaching has the potential to change everything – for you. 
Unlike consulting, coaching does not offer a new action plan or one new set of goals. At least does it have the potential to change much more.
Good coaching touches you on the inside and is able to unveil your biggest dreams and greatest desires. It can shift your mindset, change your image of the world and therefor create a new reality for you.

Coaching can change everything, what do you want to change?

Take care my friend, Floh


happy#176 – family

simplicity of happiness · happy#176 – family

Family first!
You have to be there for your family!
You can’t do that, think about your family!

Do these sound familiar to you?

Fortunately I haven’t heard them in my family, but I had been married into a family where this seemed the most important. At least as long as you didn‘d dig deeper, becaus then the destinction wasn‘t that clear anymore. There were on the one hand some members of the family where this didn‘t apply and on the other hand friends that were simply declared as a brother or cousin.

So what does it mean to be family? I am of the opinion that it is only a thought structure. After all, if go back enough in time, we are all somehow connected with everybody else. Family is a definition and you are allowed to define your own.
Choose wisely and surround yourself with those who lift you up and appreciate your help!

You are and become like the five people you spend the most time with. It‘s a choice. It‘s your choice.

Take care my friend, Floh


happy#175 – traveling

simplicity of happiness · happy#175 – traveling

Moving your physical body from one place to the other is not traveling. Move your mind as well and be present. More than that, don’t only change places but visit places you haven‘t seen before. Do something new for body and mind and you truly travel.
True travel will kick you out of your comfort zone and will help to widen your horizon.
But leaving the comfort zone is scary, I believe to everyone. The difference is just that people have different zones. While one left his, the other one might be still within. If that second person wants to grow, it will have to leave his own as well and that might be even scarier because it is so hard to push to the edge.
I strongly encourage you to find the edge of yours and go beyond. When it starts to scare you, it‘s when growth begins.
Go out and travel, let your horizon widen!

Until then, take care my friend.

Take care my friend, Floh


happy#174 – mentor

simplicity of happiness · happy#174 – mentor

Do you think that you can grow and thrive all on your own? Or does it help to look up to someone and may even have the chance to call that person and receive help?

I believe that having a mentor is one of the major aspects to thrive and develop your personality.

I experienced in my life over and over that being in contact with a person that look up to, helps me to clear my own path. 
just a couple of weeks ago I saw in a company that I was working for how important it is that young and aspiring team member have a mentor. That might be one of the key aspects for good company spirit and the growth of the company as a whole and the individual in special.

So besides looking for a mentor who achieved what you are longing for, who are you mentoring. With whom around you do you want share your experience and help them to become the best version of themselves?

Take care my friend, Floh


happy#173 – mean it

simplicity of happiness · happy#173 – mean it

How would it be, if you could take communication literally…? Wouldn‘t that make a lot of things easier?
I had to things about communication and the reason and use of using words that represent exactly what you mean in order to prepare a company workshop and realized this would make a good topic for a podcast episode.
Short version:
Cut all the BS and say what you mean and mean what you say!

Take care my friend, Floh


happy#172 – time is changing

simplicity of happiness · happy#172 – time is changing

Is my hair getting grey because time is passing or is time passing because my hair is turning grey.

What is time anyway? How would you measure time if nothing was moving. Sun not going up and down, your heart not beating, water not flowing, the clock not ticking or changing digits.
There wouldn’t be any chance that you can measure how time passed since you thought about the last time. Now picture that whole scenery slightly bigger.
Something like: Nothing moves! Ever! Like in space where there is nothing. A place even without light.
How do you measure time there.

This idea shows that the concept of time only works if things are moving and may it be energy. It was there, now it’s here and soon it will be somewhere else. And something is always moving. If you take a picture and capture that moment nothing is moving… well and no time is passing because you captured a moment.
But, isnt’t life always now and isn’t now always the moment? Does that mean now is timeless?

Take care my friend, Floh