Posts Tagged: mindfulness

happy#157 – no room for religion?

Even, if everything on earth can be explained through science.
Imagine that one day mankind is able to create life themself. Once we find out how every details of the genes. What if we find out what makes matter start living, giving that initial impuls. Then there will be no room for religion and spirituality left. At least that is what one might guess, right?
I think the opposite is true. The more we can explain, the wider the horizon will become.
The more we know, the more we realize we don’t know (yet).

Once we understand everything on earth the wonder how it got here in the first place will still remain. We will have no clue what was before and what will be after. If there was eternity and space would never end, that would be as hard to grasp as the concept of end of time and space. Which is what our current knowledge tells us.

Taking this concept of the big gang theory will also lead to the understanding that everything in existence used to be energy some trillion years ago. That leads to the conclusion that we are all one. Not only does everything has the same roots, no, everything has been one and the same.
If we have been the same ages ago, aren’t we still the same today. And I am not only talking about men and women, but your worst enemy as well. Even the food we eat and the house we live in has been the same before and who knows will the same again at some time.
Or may it be the same all the time and we don’t see it because it differs in shape?

That concept is way too logical to be ignored and gives a complete new meaning to the saying:

What you do to others, you do to yourself.

happy#156 – gratitude

Do you know the main reason for a growing or a shrinking mindset? Mainly it is a decision that you make. Are you thankful for what you have and do you appreciate everything that you’ll gain in life or are you fearful to loose what you have and are afraid for anything new?
That is the interesting perspective. It often is the same cause that let’s you feel one or the other and it is only in your mind that you change your reaction to it.Gratitude is rooted in love and therefor will trigger positive emotions and thoughts. Those lead to a positive spirit and will help you go through life with much more ease than had you chosen to go for fear and hate.The wonderful thing about it, is that you can choose each time that you feel fear. Just turn it around and be thankful for having what you already have and go on from there. All the positivity in your head. It’s not changing the world around you, but your perspective and therefor changing your world around you!

As so often, it is a choice.
Give it a try!

happy#155 – good or bad?

Everything on Earth. No, everything in the Universe only exist in relation to its opposite. Nothing can exist without being what it is not.Does it feel strage to read that? What about this? The text you are reading appears probably in black and can only be seen because it is written or dispalyed on something that is not black. When you hear the podcast you can only hear my voice because it is differentiating to the other noises around you.As these might be easy examples and are quite logical when you think about them, you can extend this concept on eveything else in life.
All that you value and love gets its importance to you olnly from the existance of its opposite. Wouldn‘t you fear or hate the opposite, you would‘t love it as much.
If that last sentence was true, could there be any truly bad in life? Or would eveything bad in your life only exist to give you the possibility to experience its opposite?
May good and bad be only creations of our mind to give things a value in relation to our own life?
If you take one thing out of this? Be careful how you judge, because it is always your own judgement and might not apply to others. Good and bad only exist in relation to the goal you want to achieve.
The are no alternativeless decisions, there are only decisions and keep in mind who it is, you want to be as this determines was is right for you.
It always was and always will be your choice.

happy#154 – don‘t own your children

September 5th is a special day to me. It brought people to my life that made me who I am today and I want to dedicate this episode to them. Almost or temporarily losing these people it draw some conclusions that helped me ever since.
Most important to me was the realization that the closer I was to certain people, the more I expected from them. There have been times in my life that I even expected my loved ones to make up for my own mysery. What I couldn‘t find in my own life, I wanted them to add.
When they couldn‘t provide that, I mean… think about it, how should anybody else be able to create something in your life and therefor in your brain that you couldn‘t even create yourself?
You are the only on who can change anything in your life, because your thoughts, your words and your actions are the only things that you are in control of anyway. Furthermore that conclusion made me realize that I have no right to expect anything from anybody else. Neither am I entitled to make anyone be with me, nor can I own anyone. We are all free people.
Love people while they are around and let them go when they want to. Enjoy each moment as you will lose them sooner or later. Let hate and fear go and make room for love and gratitude. Life will pay back.

I love you my friend, I love you my son!

happy#153 – age is just a number

I don’t know how old you are, but I guess you are also getting older. Last winter I went on a couple of mountains with my split board and I was so unfit. I thought that I am just not a fit as I used to because I am getting older.But the truth is that there were people way older than me. They were maybe in their 70th and they were fitter that me.This spring and summer I picked up some exercise and well, I am much better in shape than this winter. I don’t feel that worn out anymore… although I am half a year older. I think that age is mainly in your head. The younger you think, the younger you act, the younger you feel.That is the real topic of todays episode. It is all about the story you tell yourself. It is about feeling the joy of a child and maintain that feeling and the positive story for all your life.

simplicity – an approach of a maximalist

I am a maximalist, that’s why I became a minimalist.
What? How does that make sense?
I think it does, although it took me more than 30 years to realize. As long as I can remember I could not get enough. It did not matter whether it was playing a game, a vacation I was on, a mountain I was hiking, stuff that I owned.
I just couldn’t get enough. I wanted more and got frustrated easily when I couldn’t get it.
I believe that a major reason for me to get frustrated was, that I never focused 100% on one thing. I could do everything in life, right? The older I grew the more I realized that I could also own everything that I was longing for.

others had it all

After all… I knew people who were coming from nowhere and who owned all the fancy stuff now.
What I didn’t see back then, is that they where paying a price for everything. A day has only 24 hours and each moment can only be spend on one thing at a time. So even if you have enough money to buy almost everything, you will have to take decisions to do either this or that with your time. Even owning a motorbike, a sportcar and a sailing boat, you can only use one at a time. The more you add to your possessions the more you have to limit your time for that.
Apart from that, most people I know had to earn their money somehow. When I had a closer look at the job they needed to do in the first place, it was nothing that I ever wanted to do. At least not for more than a week.

everything comes with a price

That is the problem about comparing yourself with others. Compare and dispair. You only see the result and not the work they put in the previous years. You also don’t see the unfulfilled dreams they secretly have.
Everything comes with a price. Maybe they are in a bad relationships, maybe they don’t see their kids, maybe they would love to have more time for themselves, maybe their success comes with the price of bad health.
Furthermore we tend to compare ourself mostly to multiple other people and see the different things they achieved, all of them coming with another price and each one of them lacking the others achievements.
Now one remains unhappy and feels unsuccessful as long as you don’t own everything that others do.
Well that is the perfect ingredient to become and remain unhappy for the rest of your life.
That’s what I did for the longest time. Looking back, I already did a lot of fun things, but kept focusing on what I did not have yet… and I felt miserable.

three steps

I came to I realized one day that three steps are important for me:

First:
I need to focus on myself. What do I really want? I mean really want. Next I needed to find out what was the underlying motivation of this and then prioritize for which one I want to go first. Sometimes I found out that I could satisfy the needs completely different or combine two or three of the needs with a different action.
Knowing what you really want, knowing your basic desires for happiness.

Second:
Stop doing things that you don’t want to do. Do things that help you be the one you want to be. Focus on your desires and prioritize. Work on the things you love most, first.

Third:
Compare myself to one person only: to myself yesterday! Comparing to others is the perfect way towards an unhappy life, no matter how much you own. If you know what you really want and who you want to be, check daily whether you are one step further today than you were yesterday. If you are not. Adjust.

Sooner that you think you will have changed your life 180°. Stay focused and thankful with what you already have and go on from there.
Because I wanted to have everything and couldn’t get enough of what I already had, I started to focus on what I wanted most. All of a sudden I became l much better and had more of what I desired most. Therefor I had go get rid of all the distractions in my life that where not helping me to fulfill my dream of living the life I love.

Minimizing helped me to maximize what I love most!

happy#152 – straight to the top, or not?

Chasing dreams and achieving goals is about knowing the straight way right? Without distraction and with a clear focus directly towards your personal summit?Well, knowing where you want to go is definitely a plus, but you might face obstacles or barriers that are impossible to overcome.There is no way to fight the wind when you’re on a sailing boat. It might be much smarter to adjust your course and trim the sails. What appears to be the wrong course might actually be the only way to reach your destination.What is true for trekking, hiking, climbing or sailing might have its expression in business or personal life as well.In case you struggle, you can take a step back and have a look at the broader picture to find out if there might be an easier route with a slightly different angle or approach.

happy#149 – letting go

Sometimes you need to let go in order to achieve something new. As odd as it seems, first look for something to give up…
So often it is mainly the distraction, the lack of focus that gets in our way of achieving something.
The day has 24 hours, that‘s it. The attention span lasts only so and so long. There are new studies that the average attention span keeps decreasing and went in 2018 is low as 8 seconds. And then… the next piece of information (or misinformation) catches our attention. Furthermore it is a matter of fact that the conscious brain can only do one thing at a time. Some people get quite good in switching back and for between two topics within miliseconds. Still they will never be as good and as effective as if they did one after another and paying full concentration to each one.
Letting go of what distracts you, of what annoys you, of what is just clutter, mental and physical gives you an enormous potential to achieve even more of what you are thriving for.
Are you looking for more joy, more laughter, more satisfaction and more happiness?
Find some of the opposites in your life and let them go.
You will be amazed.
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changes

Time changes! All the time!
As one second and one moment always connects to the next one, life feels like a constant flow.
On the one hand it actually is and on the other hand all we have is NOW. Decisions are always taken now. Although you can take the experiences from the past into account it remains the moment of now that you take your decision.
It is the combination of your past that will lead to a decision now, that can shape your future.
A coach of mine once told me that our unconscious mind is always protecting us and that decisions we take are always in our best intentions. No body really wants to hurt itself, at least not as long as there some more valuable secondary gain that it will take out of that action.

If you realize that, you will come to the conclusion that whenever you took a clear and congruent decision, it was the right decision. It was as good of a decision as it could possibly be in the moment you took it.
Has it ever proofed to be the wrong decision afterwards because you received feedback that showed you information, you didn’t have before?
Well, it remains the right decision for that very moment you took it. There was something that you didn’t know yet and which you needed to find out to become more aware.
While your heart/soul thrives for something, your mind will create the decision and circumstance for your body to experience it. Then your body will give a feedback of gained knowledge back to your heart and you can thrive for something else.

Let the grieve (about wrong decisions) go and focus on what you are going to do with the new knowledge for the rest of your life.

I myself planned this year to be different. I had plans and goals and dreams and wishes. Then life happened. Other people around me took decisions that I had not foreseen and as everything in life is connected one way or another it made realizing some of my goals impossible.
It was up to me to take this knew knowledge into account. Some blogposts back I told you that I was going to run across the alps by foot and that I wanted to document the journey of this summer. Then I went to Zanzibar and suddenly had to adjust all of my plans. A lot went wrong for me and I reprioritized, had to rearrange some things and had to focus on some other projects. These made running out in the mountains for some weeks not possible…

And… I took the new gained freedom to turn a dream of mine into reality. I always wanted to go sailing. Not around one bay for an hour or so, but for distant places and far away lonely beaches with no schedule to come back.
I needed my own boat and now I have one. I went for the smallest wooden boat that I could find and which is still safe enough to go for larger distances and now I am going to write and publish about this journey instead.

More about my folkboat in another post.

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